How can I get over a fear my ex induced?

[Anonymous]

To start off my ex was highly abusive and I never fought back she would hit me while she was driving then make me walk home no matter where we were at no matter the conditions I once walked 20 miles in 100 degree weather (couldn't call anyone because family was out of town and my friends were camping) she did many other things but not the point I can't talk to girls without such a bad amount of anxiety that my friends have to pull me away and reassure me that she isn't going to be like that even then doesn't help how can I get over this fear

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[McMillanD]

You need to seek some counseling.
No one wants to do it because it has this ridiculous stigma as being for the "weak". It is not. Anyone who has been through a traumatic experience should consider it because even the strongest of people can have trouble coping and moving past these events. It's a form of PTSD and should be treated like it.
A counselor will help you come to terms with what happened to you and also give you tools to help you deal with future situations involving the opposite sex. This is something you should seriously consider if you do indeed want to have a real healthy relationship in the future.
Also, it is not something that you should be ashamed of. It is unfortunately very common and happens to a lot more people than you would think. Putting your trust in someone and having it ripped away and abused is not something that is easy to recover from. And sometimes we need help to do so.
You should do it for yourself and because she can't win like this. She can't have ruined your life at the time and be allowed to keep doing it. It's just wrong.