Is it normal to think that nobody is really happy in their relationship/marriage?

[Shellyworld]

I mean I wish most people happiness. But I think that most people just pretend that they are happy in their relationship or happily married. I probably don’t believe in happiness because I have had terrible experience with relationships. I used to love the idea of getting married but now the dream is just over.
Sometimes I think of my crushes I can never afford to be with and that makes me sad. I had to try dating guys who are not my type at all. I hated every minute of it. So automatically I think that relationships are overrated because why do people break up or divorce?
The good guys are already married or too far away or in another position of life which make them unavailable.

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[ohshee]

Well I like your question I always have said you have to experience something before you can understand it you have to feel it before you can understand it I think that do you just haven't had the opportunity to feel what it really feels like to completely understand it the other thing is is we are all giving a gift when we're bored and that gift is choice the word choice no matter what we do every breath we take it's a choice we choose to do whatever we're going to do every second of the day we choose we want to be by the things we say we do it's a choice the word choice is more powerful than the word love because no matter what we do no matter who we love it's a choice you don't make a choice and then it just all of a sudden poof it happens in the choices we make you have to make it happen and when you make it happen you have to be a part of it but you also need a partner is on the same page and it's making the same choice.
When you say all the good guys are taken it's not that what it is is the guys that are married that are content that are happy when you talk to them their kind or gentle they're open they're free with their words they're nice because they're happy when you meet somebody and they're not married they don't have a girlfriend they don't know who they are they don't know who they want to be they don't know how to use their words or their feelings are their emotions so they come across as being rude or be honest they probably are LOL but I think there are tons of guys out there that you would probably like there's probably tons of guys on here you'd probably like maybe at least I'm here and you get to see exactly who they are by their answers to their questions like I said you have to experience it before you can understand it you have to feel it and feel it deep before you can understand it now and saying all that you have to know exactly who you are and you have to be 100% honest with yourself on who you are no beating around the bush no sugar coating because if you think of yourself one way that you acted the other way that will mess everything up to you can't have it two ways you have to make a choice and be one person I don't know why I want to say something so bad right now it's kind of funny would love to say it but I'm not going to it's nothing bad or anything it's just weird that's all it's not about you it's about me but I should say it anyway it's all in the choices you make start with your happiness start with you do you know who you are from the inside out can you feel energy can you feel your energy and you feel People's Energy if you can do that I can tell you exactly how to become happy and get everything you want

[Anonymous]

I don't know if I agree with nobody's happy. But relationships are work that's for sure and if you're with the wrong person they're just that much more work.
Personally since I disconnected from women I find life a lot simpler. You don't have to constantly think of the other half. It's like a giant mental weight has been removed. I know where you're coming from.

[weysally]

marriage is like everything else in life, you have to work at it, you only get out of marriage what you put into it, yes there are times when even this doesn't work, most is down to trust issues, anyway

[OlderAndWiser]

It is not unusual for people to project their inadequacies and insecurities onto others.

[exitseven]

UI have been married for 25 years. It has not always been pretty. It does take some work and I had to grow up pretty fast after I got married.
I would do it all over again however even knowing what I know now. I guess the thing that helped was having some bad relationships before I had this good one.

[Anonymous]

I believe that some people get married or are in a relationship to please the other person and to avoid the guilt of upsetting them by breaking up or being true to yourself as to who you are in order to find someone with similar interests and likes that will make you happy. For me I think it would be easier to be depressed about not having someone who shares your interests or has the personality that you crave rather than feeling the guilt of breaking up with someone. Depressed for me is when you do something to yourself or someone else does something to you, whereas guilt is when you do something to someone else.

[boggboss]

Lol no a lot of people are happy in relationship u are missing up concepts if u are happy dont mean you are happy 100% off the time thats not normal

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

Most certainly not.
It is usually bad (socio) economics, as in not wanting children together or not having a plan for the finances that adds up time/effort/time together/loyalty wise.

[TheBigGuy9]

It is not normal to think that way. In fact, I think it’s selfish.

[Iron_Man]

Sometimes people complain a little bit too much and they really don’t know what happy is after all

[COMMODOREII]

Are you looking for a guy? 😗

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Yeah, if you're having problems, yourself

[serious]

Yes it is.