People who have had to help their partner w/ shower & dressing etc due to 🤕 injury 🤕 or illness🤕 Did you get turned on anyhow or compartmentalized?

[VIVANT]

I never get turned on when I’m helping someone.

Vote A

I get turned on BUT keep it calm down there when I know it’s help time not not happy time..

Vote B

Its a mix. I try to compartmentalize. Sometimes I’m successful others, no.

Vote C

I only get turned on if I’m naked.

Vote D

I get turned on naked or not, sometimes.

Vote E

I get turned on naked or not, all times.

Vote F

Other.

Vote G

Updates:

1 y

The reason I said partner is bc I’m 💯 referring to a ROMANTIC PARTNER. Not a random person. Strictly: SO. boyfriend. girlfriend. WIFE. HUSBAND. Finding a situation that @ normal times in a romantic relationship could potentially be arousing, However, in this case you are strictly meant to help bc they have become incapacitated due to injury or illness etc

For myself with MY boyfriend I would definitely aim compartmentalize & it’d be easy for me to do.

[Leavesbound]

I dated a girl who had no legs. She normally had someone who took care of certain things for her but she could get around in a wheel chair for the most part. Her building didn't have an elevator so she had to be carried down two flights of stairs. I always gave her a piggy back ride in such occasions and at night when she had to pee we skipped the wheel chair because it was quicker if I carried her to the toilet and since we were both naked I didn't bother leaving so I'd just sit on the edge of the tub watching her do her business. Sometimes it was just me doing things for her with no sexual thoughts and sometimes it was very sexual like when we engaged in bondage or when we took a bath together. Baths were easier than showers because we never found a chair that quite fit in her old claw foot tub. But we never compartmentalized. Anything either of us were naked in the presence of the other there was always sexual tension though we didn't always do anything about it. The biggest difference between us and other couples was honestly we did a lot of bondage that took advantage of her lack of legs and sexual positions were a bit different. I built her a sling so that certain positions were more comfortable for her.

[Guffrus]

Its not the only reason, but its certainly a compelling reason why people are still painting in a time when we have such highly developed photographic technology.

Artistic licence allows you to pretend that there isn't a dogs asshole right in the middle of the picture. there's no cropping that out, it might as well be that adorable dogs mouth. Nope, thats not going anywhere.

Also, once you see it, you can't look away and it doesn't matter where you move your head its always looking directly at you.

Spooky.

Regarding the actual question, Im not really that sort of helpful, i tend to excel more in a supervisory role, helping them to see the futility of trying to dress themselves with their spastic limbs and assessing if there is even enough material.

In any case its probably easier for everyone if they just wrap themselves in something, like robe or why not do something useful (for once) and upcycle an old curtain?

Im sure i have some old rope lying around here somewhere..

(Mutters* You dont get money for that anymore; fucking worlds gone to hell in a hand basket. She'll probably be wanting one of those in a minute too. There's no pleasing some people.)

[DarkCarousel]

I would not be turned on at all. The main focus is helping them shower or dress because they can't do it themselves. I would take on a more functional role during those times.

It's hard for me to imagine being turned on by the nakedness of someone (even my partner) who is incapacitated by injury or illness. Unless it's a broken arm or something. That's different.

Hysterical picture of the dogs, by the way.

[JuliaStyles]

Have not had that happen to me - yet. Knock on wood! How about a pussy rubbing a banana?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I didn't have to help him wash just make sure he didn't fall out anything and change his bandages from the one surgery but no didn't get turned on...
He did though when he took care of me when I had back surgery

[JackSmy]

With someone you really like/love, it can be a very 'enlightening' experience, and maybe bring you both closer, with the obvious, intimacy, and NO PRIVACY! You experience everything, and even things you might not like, about yourself, and your own personally 'grooming' or bodily functions, with the other.
TOTALLY HUMILIATING, for both, at first, but then, after a while, some experiences, you just decide that you really care, and let all the "Gross" shit go, and just focus on making them as comfortable as possible, as they heal, and recover.
At some point, with a love, you do kind of tease, and play, and get back to how you were, before being so involved with their most personal, intimate things, that most do alone, and privately.
Nothing I would want to repeat, but, knowing, experiencing, I feel like I can deal with it, again, in the future, if put into that situation, again.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

When I helped someone such as my maternal Grandma, who was sick with dementia I had to help her care for herself cause she refused to let my Grand-dad help her they have their choice and I believe my sister, mother helped my Grandma but I never got turned on, but sure If I had a girlfriend or wife things could be different

[Jamie05rhs]

I've never had a partner.

I have helped people bathe, though, before (in a professional capacity.). They were guys, though, so that would be kinda weird if I was turned on, since I'm not gay.

I have also been in physically close situations with girls. (Practicing water rescues and CPR.). I probably would have otherwise been turned on, because a lot of them were really hot. But yes, I did compartmentalize. Since it was just part of my job and they were my coworkers. So I wasn't turned on, because I didn't allow myself to be. (If I had allowed my mind to stray in that direction, then I can guarantee you that I probably wouldn't have been able to perform the tasks properly because I wouldn't have been able to think straight.)


But I'm curious as to the reason behind the question. Would you prefer them not to be turned on? Just because you don't want to think that they are thinking that? Or do you not want to receive compliments because they would be distracting?

[TwistedTube]

I don't think you get turned on just seeing someone's body tbh. I believe that what turns someone on is the idea of having sex, which I doubt is something you'll think about when you're helping the other due to injuries etc.

[Sevenpointfive]

if we hadn't been together in a few days then or she's giving the member a thorough washing then how can you not? but i've taken a shower with girls where it didn't turn sexual. i mean it was hot so i guess i was still aroused. i did bathe her and she me

[Anonymous]

You're trying to help them do something. So you need to be a mature adult and help them.
But they're also your partner. It's ok to be turned on by them and for them to know it provided the job gets done.
It might actually make you a better and more attentive helper.

[Gwenhwyfar]

This never happened to me but I would probably get turned on and I might give them oral if they wanted (they probably would) and it wouldn’t jeopardize their health

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Nope, iwas never in such situation and I never had a partner , but I think if they were in pain I possibly couldnot sexualisd them , but if they were exceptionally hot maybe mind could wander and they are my partner would bd natural I guess

[exitseven]

I just went through this. I had surgery a month ago and I needed my wife to help me take shower. We both were horny and could not do anything about it.

[Still-alive]

i never went through this before, but you still get turned on by him even though he's going through this?

This was something i would worry about if i or my partner might get too turned off while im badly injured or sick for a long while.

[1stranger]

Someone? I can't say I never get turned on when I’m helping someone... Lol never say never 😄

[humanearth]

Nah, not really. Because I am too busy taking care their needs to even think of it

[KrakenAttackin]

When I was this injured I absolutely would not let my then wife help me as I knew the complete intolerance she had for weakness in a man.

[Anonymous]

it's not really a "sexy time" situation, but it can happen. We're only human. :P But I think most people in those situations are pretty good at tuning it out and just thinking about helping the person.

[Luckycharms12]

Well I'm a nurse have washed people and everything no you do not get turned on

[jahaims]

Doesn't turn me on. Had to do it a few times for my wife after surgery.

[Aimée__LJ]

No it's mostly just sad, and feels a little weird.

[Joshua0213]

To an extent yeah but wouldn't show it obviously

[Agape93]

Compartmentalized