If you are separated from your SO, Would you take your ex to an overseas trip?

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Let say you had been separated from your ex for like11 years but not legally divorced yet and you still pay your ex alimony. Now you get along better with your ex than when you were married you both had 2 kids in common that now one is 20 years old and the other one is 16. The daughter (16) lives with the mother and the son lives with the father.

Your former ex has another kid (in this case a 4 yrd old baby) from the guy she is currently had a relationship with and you as her former ex enjoys to give from time to time gifts to the little girl, even if it is not yours but there is a little chance the baby it is from the ex husband but the ex wife does not want to say and the ex husband say it is not his.

The ex huband still pays his ex wife alimony since they got separated. Anyway the ex husband took the ex wife for an overseas trip with their kids.

I mean if the ex has a relationship with another guy supposedly, if you were that "guy",

Would you be ok for your lady to be on a trip with her ex and either leave the baby she has with you in your care or your partner took the 4 yrd old daughter with her for the 2 week vacations? The ex went to the overseas trip with her ex husband but also in that trip the other children were too.

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4 mo

I forgot to mention the little baby even if the motehr does not say is from her ex, she is registered under her ex last names, the baby does not have the last name of the real father if the real father turns out to be the current mother SO. That is because since the couple still is not legally divorced yet fro 11 years, for the Birth National record, the couple still is married and they are both the baby parents.

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GlassTop | 140 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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I’m trying to understand what the hell you are saying. It’s all over the place. So let me get this right.

ex husband and ex wife come with their two biological kids to a family trip? Basically as if they were a whole family again? And their other partners are doing something else in the meantime? It sounds like they are basically back together again.

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kitty71

4 mo
They are not back together. Legally they are still married only separated for 12 years they are not officially or legally divorced yet after 12 years. The ex husband askedthe ex wife to go with him and their 2 biological kids to an overseas trip. The ex wife is not dating the ex again, she has anotehr kid from another guy who she is supposedly dating. What I ask is if you were the current partner of this ex wife, Would you be ok for her partner to go on a trip with her ex even if they will go with their 2 biological kids? For me that is not good

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GlassTop

4 mo
I’ve been cheated on multiple times so that would be a HELL NO from me. But personally I wouldn’t have even dated a woman who had kids and wasn’t divorced to begin with. I can envision that the non divorced ex’s will be screwing without a doubt. That’s just my logical opinion.

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kitty71

4 mo
You are probably right they may be screwing but is not confirmed or any proof about it but how come they are not divorced yet after like 12 years of being separated? I only believe they are not divorced now maybe for some $$ issue involved.

Each of the exes live with one kid out of the 2 they had. The son lives with the father and the daughter lives with the mother. I heard that now that they are exes they get along better than then were a couple. The guy even buy gifts only from time to time for the baby duaghter his ex has with another guy.

The ex husband says the little daughter (4 years old now) is not his, that is what he wants everyone to believe and he hd sticked with that story and the ex wife says it is not his either it is from her current partner, Also dont you find odd or strange that the ex husband had never mentioned to any close relative or close family that his ex has a 4 yrd old daughter? I mean not that we have to care cause she is no longer part of our family but she is the mother still of our teenage cousins. But why the ex husbandhad never mentioned his ex has anotehr baby?

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GlassTop

4 mo
It sounds to be like they are just a separated couple living multiple lives. One with their ex, and another with their current partner. I’ve seen it happen before. It didn’t last forever, but it lasted long enough for them to get back together. They they separated again not long after that because they worked better living separated.

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kitty71

4 mo
Someone told it they are not legally divorced yet for some $$$ issue here even after 12 years. I also think the ex husband still pays his ex alimony, WTF? This guy is a stupid man!!! Also the issue here is that how come the ex wife current partner allow hius lady to go on a overseqas trip with her ex even if they will go with the biological kids they had in common? I mean where is the 4 yrd old daughter here, Did they take him also to Mexico or was left with the real father (the one the ex wife currently dates)

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kitty71

They are not back together. Legally they are still married only separated for 12 years they are not officially or legally divorced yet after 12 years. The ex husband askedthe ex wife to go with him and their 2 biological kids to an overseas trip. The ex wife is not dating the ex again, she has anotehr kid from another guy who she is supposedly dating. What I ask is if you were the current partner of this ex wife, Would you be ok for her partner to go on a trip with her ex even if they will go with their 2 biological kids? For me that is not good

Answer 3

GlassTop

I’ve been cheated on multiple times so that would be a HELL NO from me. But personally I wouldn’t have even dated a woman who had kids and wasn’t divorced to begin with. I can envision that the non divorced ex’s will be screwing without a doubt. That’s just my logical opinion.

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kitty71

You are probably right they may be screwing but is not confirmed or any proof about it but how come they are not divorced yet after like 12 years of being separated? I only believe they are not divorced now maybe for some $$ issue involved.

Each of the exes live with one kid out of the 2 they had. The son lives with the father and the daughter lives with the mother. I heard that now that they are exes they get along better than then were a couple. The guy even buy gifts only from time to time for the baby duaghter his ex has with another guy.

The ex husband says the little daughter (4 years old now) is not his, that is what he wants everyone to believe and he hd sticked with that story and the ex wife says it is not his either it is from her current partner, Also dont you find odd or strange that the ex husband had never mentioned to any close relative or close family that his ex has a 4 yrd old daughter? I mean not that we have to care cause she is no longer part of our family but she is the mother still of our teenage cousins. But why the ex husbandhad never mentioned his ex has anotehr baby?

Answer 5

GlassTop

It sounds to be like they are just a separated couple living multiple lives. One with their ex, and another with their current partner. I’ve seen it happen before. It didn’t last forever, but it lasted long enough for them to get back together. They they separated again not long after that because they worked better living separated.

Answer 6

kitty71

Someone told it they are not legally divorced yet for some $$$ issue here even after 12 years. I also think the ex husband still pays his ex alimony, WTF? This guy is a stupid man!!! Also the issue here is that how come the ex wife current partner allow hius lady to go on a overseqas trip with her ex even if they will go with the biological kids they had in common? I mean where is the 4 yrd old daughter here, Did they take him also to Mexico or was left with the real father (the one the ex wife currently dates)

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slatyb | 4.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

I still like most of my ex-girlfriends, but I wouldn't want to take any of them on an extended trip. Well, maybe one of them. I wouldn't, because my wife would be extremely unhappy if I did.

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silkjames | 70 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

This from a TV show or something lol this would keep me on my toes lol

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kitty71

4 mo
No is not from a TV show is a true fact from someone close I know

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silkjames

4 mo
Adams family combined with the Brady bunch one big happy family:)! Jk and I guess if his new girlfriend was cool with this right or was this all behind her back?

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kitty71

4 mo
Well the ex husband was indeed dating a lady for 5 years but just casually nothing too serious, his ex wife current baby daughter is 4 years old, odd time right?

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Answer 9

kitty71

No is not from a TV show is a true fact from someone close I know

Answer 10

silkjames

Adams family combined with the Brady bunch one big happy family:)! Jk and I guess if his new girlfriend was cool with this right or was this all behind her back?

Answer 11

kitty71

Well the ex husband was indeed dating a lady for 5 years but just casually nothing too serious, his ex wife current baby daughter is 4 years old, odd time right?

Answer 12

AimeeKyle

Xper 6

Maybe. Would really boil down to the relationship of the entire family. Sounds like a potential for a lot of drama though

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kitty71

4 mo
A lot of drama for sure specially whenthe ex wife has a small duaghter with anotehr guy

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Answer 13

kitty71

A lot of drama for sure specially whenthe ex wife has a small duaghter with anotehr guy

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Iron_Man | 8.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

No that would be cheating because you know what’s gonna happen In the hotel room

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kitty71

4 mo
There is a chance that could had happened of course but the ex wife still went with her ex and the kids they both share to an overseas trip while the ex wife is in a relationship with another guy who supposedly is the little girl father. Who is the selfish prick person is here?

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Answer 15

kitty71

There is a chance that could had happened of course but the ex wife still went with her ex and the kids they both share to an overseas trip while the ex wife is in a relationship with another guy who supposedly is the little girl father. Who is the selfish prick person is here?

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Anonymous

Well from start point go I'd have to say that wouldn't happen. Because there's no way I'd separate for 11 years. without divorcing.

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kitty71

4 mo
Exactly i guess this guy has not divorced legally and only separated for $$ issues with his ex and still the guy pays her alimony

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kitty71

Exactly i guess this guy has not divorced legally and only separated for $$ issues with his ex and still the guy pays her alimony

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msc545 | 2.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Yes, but are their cousins that are married and nobody knows and they just had a defective baby?

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kitty71

4 mo
No they are not cousins who were married and had 2 kids before

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kitty71

4 mo
No. The exes are not cousins.

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msc545

4 mo
oh to bad. I thought you could add to the story if that was true

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Answer 19

kitty71

No they are not cousins who were married and had 2 kids before

Answer 20

kitty71

No. The exes are not cousins.

Answer 21

msc545

oh to bad. I thought you could add to the story if that was true

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princeofromance | 345 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Yes, if she was willing to go.

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kitty71

4 mo
but she is an ex?

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princeofromance

4 mo
What is wrong with it as long as I am separated from my Significant Other as stated in your question?

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Answer 23

kitty71

but she is an ex?

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princeofromance

What is wrong with it as long as I am separated from my Significant Other as stated in your question?

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fireforeffect | 123 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

NO!!!

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