My boyfriend said he has been thinking of breaking up with me?


So I'm very confused and hurt right now, I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend (of almost 2 years) and I have been arguing over everything for the last week or so. Generally, we never really argue, at least about anything serious and it's usually over in a couple of minutes. But lately he has seemed very unhappy and snaps at me for almost anything...well I'm getting to point of frustration and I snap back at him, so it's now just a vicious cycle. I have noticed, and I have tried to ask him what's going on, but he just blows it off and, well, vicious cycle. This morning we got into a fight over something very silly on our way to work, and it led to him saying he has been unhappy and thinking about breaking up with me for the past week.

We live together and work together (I know) and have talked about marriage and family, and we both (I thought) wanted the same things, but now I just really don't know. Things up until this point have been really good, with minor bumps. He does have a child he has nothing to do with, that he neglected to tell me about for the first year, but we've mostly worked through that. He's since apologized to me and said that it's not what he really wants, he was just angry. So now I am just thinking that he is staying with me for convenience and to avoid a confrontation. So how do I trust this man, that I truly love, to not just give up and leave me the next time we hit a bump? What if we have children and he decides at that point that he's done? Please, I know this is silly and I know people only do what they really want to do, but some outside words might be comforting. How does a relationship move on from this?


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  • ok...this is what you need to do...sit his ass down...grab his face gently with both hands...and look at him dead square in the eye and say "I LOVE YOU"...tell him you are in love with him...then ask him what is bothering him...and put your arms around him...and don't let go till he tells you...get the courage and do me he will start talking...sounds like there needs to be some better communication between you two...He doesn't want to leave you...more importantly when he starts talking...JUST LISTEN...and let him vent...if you interrupt will make him mad

    • Thank you both for your insight. We finally talked and decided that we are staying together and working things out...and definitely working on our communication.

  • He's telling you because he doesn't want to break up with you, he wants things to change. Try couples' counseling. You need an impartial third party who can make you both see the others' point of view.. and remind the both of you that you each need to consider the other. Good luck. :)

    • And maybe you shouldn't be commuting together all the time. At least until things cool off.

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