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My boyfriend and I started dating last summer. My bff was not too excited about us, so we kept us a secret, because we only had one week together before he moved six hours away. I thought it wasn't going to last. But we stayed in touch, and after six months we started to daydream about the future. I was moving to his city in the fall. The secret relationship was hard for us though, and when he came home two weeks ago we started dating in public, as the world believed we just met. My bff was cool with it. Problem is, he broke up with me last night. He said keeping him a secret had made him feel like a low prioroty, and accused me of putting my bff before him, since I wouldn't tell her. How do you tell someone after six months you've had a boyfriend? Our friendship would be over, but he doesen't understand this. He said it had killed almost all the feelings he had for me, at least made them a lot weaker than it was last summer, when he was very much in love with me.

Last week, we spent the night at our second house, ate some delicious food, talked, lied in the sun, listened to music and had a great time. He mentioned this when he broke up and said he was surprised over how good it was. It was like we had no problems at all, it was like last summer.

My question is, are we completely over? He said he had been thinking about this the last couple of months, and that he had really, really tried, and he thought I was a great girl and he wanted to be with me, but his feelings were chased away by my wish to keep us a secret, to not hurting my bff (I'm not really a bad friend, it is another story, not important to this). He said he has feelings for me, but they were weak, but I think about our little trip and what wonderful time we had. I think there is still something there. He says there is nothing wrong with who I am, the problem is what is around us. How can anyone throw away 11 months in two weeks? I want him to fall in love with me again. Is it even possible

my ex said horrible things to me during our break up to impress another woman...both the woman and i said we were never going to speak to him again. He chased after her & not me (i dont know whether or not she speaks to him still) but i do know she had asked him to put a pic of them on IG before me & he refused to but he posted one of me & one of him & i together...(i guilt tripped him into it kinda) he was very adamant about not having any girls on his iG but he did it in the end...after the horrible breakup & made it clear she & i spoke so he'd be even more scared to contact me.

for 4 days after the breakup HE kept them both up then he removed the one of him & I together...now almost 2 weeks later he still has up my pic...i dont know whats happening between them but i know i will never speak to him again

if he was the type to never look at his IG & have a bunch of women on it all the time id understand him not being bothered to remove it but its just a picture of me with "queen" as the caption and he has never posted any other girl and its bothering me reason being, i basically had to force him to put a picture up in the first place now that he has made it explicitly clear he wants her & not me & made no effort to contact me (though i did request that) he is keeping it up so i know this isn't a "he probably forgot" situation"

why hasn't he taken it down...is it to bother me? is it to bother her? is it to help him get other women? is it so i can contact him first, is it to keep me looking at his profile for when he takes it down, is it to make fun of me? is it cause he knows i analyze everything? is it cause even if he takes it down today ill still wonder why he kept it up so long? is it cause if he takes it down now it'll hit harder & reopen to rejection wound? ...i wish i could not care...but i want it down & UGH.

i feel like a child i had a problem w/ it not being up now i have a prob w/ it not being down