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It doesn't matter what kind of cheating. It doesn't matter the situation behind it. I'm talking very generalized here when it comes to the question, both emotional and physical cheating count. But I am talking about a marraige or serious long term relationship. Not a relationship that is kinda serious or short term. If the person you have a bond with (one that you hoped for the rest of your life) cheated on you, what would you do?

The reason I ask this is because, personally, I don't think I could leave the person I'm with if he cheated. And if anyone has read my opinions on cheaters, well they certainly aren't good. I despise cheating. I absolutely hate it. I think it's a disgusting thing to do to someone. It tears that person apart and leaves them with monumental emotional baggage.

I would never forgive someone who did this to me. I would never be able to look at them the same way again. I would never be able to trust that person again. But I don't think I'm strong enough to leave them, either. I think it's because I don't have very much respect for myself. I might even think that I deserved it. I don't think I could find anyone else that would love me the same way. I've always been a doormat. I love unconditionally (I'd like to say I have conditions, but I just don't think I do realistically). People can hurt me all they want and I would take it. I would be so unhappy, but I don't think I'd deserve better.

It's all hypothetical, since I haven't been cheated on (and my partner would never do something so horrible, he's just not capable of it. He treats me wonderfully and is the best thing I could ever dream of, which I am lucky and blessed to have, because the wrong guy could destroy me very easily), but I can see myself being that person who stays. I would love to say that I'd leave and never look back (and that's always the advice I give people who have been cheated on), but I can't honestly say that I could. I'd never forgive or forget, but I don't think I'd leave. And you know, that makes me really sad to think about.

I'm just curious if there are any people that feel similar?

I know this may sound crazy coming from an American woman, but I think my life would have been way better if I had an arranged marraige. Why? Because the rules are laid out. You know that no matter what you and this person will respect each other and set goals together. When I work with this person there will be a benefit to me and our family.

Dating is hard and it sucks. I have dated men... built them up and helped them with their dreams. What did I get after their goals were reached? Nothing and here I am alone.

I would have wasted much less time, energy, and efforts if I had an arranged marriage.

(People have marriage all wrong these days. Marriage isn't about a fancy wedding. Marriage is about dedication, hard work, and respect. Marriage is something you have to work at everyday, like a business).