Search Results: being chivalrous

In an 'equal' society, why am I making a down payment just to see a woman? Well, certainly, the U. S. is anything but equal, but this concept still bugs me. When I was younger, money never factored in to it. Either we had it or we didn't, and we would both buy meals for each other when we did have it. Going on picnics with home made food and stuff. I only went to a real restaurant a couple of times, and that was with my (ex) fiance when I was 17; so, I didn't care what I had to pay, because we were already together, and I adored her. It was about spending time with one another, not which one of us was the 'provider'.

(Although, seriously? 50 bucks for a hamburger that isn't even as good as Wendy's? And that was in 2007! >_> Although, the view was very nice up in a tower overlooking Dallas.)

So, why am I supposed to buy her meal when she's just a stranger to me? I'm just supposed to, because if you don't, then you're an asshole. Even if she makes more money than me.

If a chick expects me to pay for the first date, just to get a free meal and run out, then fuck that.

One of my female acquaintances outwardly told me that she thinks that men should treat women better than women treat men, and that it's their 'role' to be the provider. That's some seriously old fashioned thinking for a liberal, incidentally.

Then, I have to question whether equality is even possible, given our innate desires. Men, to chase down a woman and bump her over the head, so to speak, with a club: claiming victory. And the woman, chasing and ultimately wanting to be controlled and protected and chased and desired. Masculine being power and feminine wanting to be controlled by that power. I. e., 'you're the man, so you should be able to catch me a chicken,' so to speak.

I'm not saying this is always true, just that those seem, to me, to be the innate instincts of men and women; however, intellect, the ability to reason, isn't included in that.

I just see it as archaic.

In the former maybe you were trying to be chivalrous and opening the door for her or scooting her seat in abd she gets mad at you for that. in the latter you don't do any of that and she gets mad at you for that.

what would you say is worse?