Search Results: how to deal with shy guys

A question that has always kinda interested me, A lot of guys will tell you that girls want a jerk, a guy who doesn't care about them, others will tell that no that is far from the truth and you can always be kind a get girls , not nice but kind, as in a person who genuinley wants good and is not faking it to reach his goal... dont get mr wrong though iam not saying weak or doesn't stand up for himself iam saying, kind and good.

I had 2 gfs, both cute, both very nice (well the second kinda hot and cold but she was still nice ) and i absolutly adored that quality about them, they were laid back like me and really nice and kind... and they chose to date me... girls usually fine me very good looking and are not shy about it but iam far from a bad boy even though i look like one and can act like one if iam super pissed (uncommon though) , i think twice before doing something cause i understand that sometimes people are going through a rough day/week and they aren't being as*holes just cause... even when my ex whom i truly had strong feelings for decided to end things, i was cool and nice about it and wished her good luck and assured her that its all good and its not always meant to be.

sometimes i doubt myself and wonder why i do what i do, other times iam genuinly satisfied with how i react to such issues, how iam extremely loyal and faithful ( i dont even hug another girl if iam dating someone... well i dont like hugging random peopel in general but still ) and aim to be a good person.

my question is pretty simple, assuming the guy is not a loser and the physical attraction is there, is being kind and good a must, a plus or a deal breaker?