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My best guy friend knows I have a crush on him. We are really close and spent all summer texting all day long and hanging out when we could. We both are in other relationships so we can't see each other too much outside of school. We talked about everything including his darkest secrets and lots of sexual stuff.

Now we are back in school and he's started being hot and cold with me. We tease and break balls a lot but just this week he's started to call me names. He called me bitch once and cunt a bunch of times. He NEVER does this when anyone else can hear. It's like an inside joke or pet name he has for me. He doesn't do this with anyone else. He knows I don't like that word, so he keeps calling me that, whispering it to me or saying it under his breath.

I told him today that it had to stop and he said it was a just a joke to " include" me? WTF? I asked if he thought I deserved to be called that and he seemed really hurt that I was hurt.

I know he likes me a lot. We touch every day, hugs, high fives, grooming each other, long eye contact, sitting all up on each other, whispering a lot, sharing food and drinks, etc. I know he loves to make me mad. He grins like an idiot and seems really pleased with himself when I threaten to murder him.

He's always teasing me about liking him, saying things like " you know you want it" and talking about his genitals and getting boners, etc. He kind of rubs it in my face that I like/want him. He also like to pretend to be an alpha male and he says I "challenge" him, by calling him on his bs.

Is this some really immature flirting technique? He says he loves me AND hates me at the same time. What does that mean? I am nothing but nice to him and I think I've made my feelings clear to him, so it's just hurtful that he does this and thinks it is somehow funny. Am I being too sensitive?

This is all a very long story, but to make it short. He liked me in high school, I liked him in college. We dated briefly in high school and I broke up with him. Then we almost dated in college... except he told me he was just trying to get back at me for not liking him in high school. It was a mess. He said he was just using me to make up for his own loneliness. We never kissed or anything... it was bizarre.

Fast forward some.. I said we couldn't be friends, he begged and begged. I finally gave in b/c I realized it was doing more hurt than good... So we restarted our friendship. I hated hanging out w/ him at first b/c I didn't trust him. I kind of still don't?

He and I are really really bad at not being close friends. We actually like telling each other our secrets and hearing each other's opinions. I didn't want to be close w/ him like this ever again, but we seem to weasel our way into each other's lives no matter what. fml.

So two weeks ago I was very stressed. Over the phone he asked me when it was that I last got laid and with whom. He suggested I use it as a stress reliever. As we are NOT that close right now, I thought this was REALLY awkward! It's like he's checking in on my sex life.

Week later I got wasted and wrote him about how I thought it was a weird/awkward question. So last night... we have an ENTIRE discussion about sex and our sexual experiences. It was fine and hilarious sharing some silly things.

I just worry about getting too close with him again. I mean, where do we draw the friendship line? We both had very strong feelings for one another at some point in our lives and neither of us want to like the other again... so where do we stop telling each other things?

I've been good friends w/ a guy for a while. We finally decided to start dating... but so far it doesn't feel any different. Should it? I mean, before we were dating we were always really close. We stayed up all night talking, cuddling, wrestling, joking, sharing secrets. I guess we were kind of always emotionally dating? So we added in the kissing... we haven't done anything else. I really really enjoy my time with him... but it doesn't feel any different than it used to. We used to grab a drink together, used to go to lunch or dinner together. Idk. It's comfortable and I like it, but it's not like... exciting? Maybe that's a sign that we're mature? Idk, it's not like that high school love where I'm trying to predict everything he's thinking. I just genuinely enjoy spending time with him.