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Seen this guy for a while, we speak for hours every day on the phone, we have a connection like I’ve never had before, like a best friend but more.

Haven’t had sex yet because we wanted to wait, cause he was sexually coerced & abused by this girl who then made a false allegation against him when he eventually rejected & left her, he had sworn off sex for life until he met me. He’s currently waiting for results of the investigation which has put him in a depression and struggle with trust. But he told me I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to him, that I repaired him and brought him hope and trust back in people, that he’s grateful and so lucky to know me.

He was supposed to see me next week and was super excited, but today all of the sudden he cancelled because his mental health has hit rock bottom the past week & work is piling up, he said he knows if he sees me he’ll catch major feelings (which I think he already kind of has), and isn’t ready for a relationship and needs to see a therapist. He doesn’t want me to be his emotional crutch (he’s been really open about his feelings) and wants to man up and take his problems on himself and said it wasn’t fair on me to take on all his downs.

I asked if he needed a break and he said yes and that he’s going to take a break from social media to recharge and focus on himself and work. He said he’s really upset and wished circumstances were different and that he’s really gonna miss me. I told him I’d give him space and wait for him when he’s ready. I’m just worried he won’t contact me again because he doesn’t want to bother me. I don't know what to do cause I’ve caught feelings he’s such an amazing guy and I don’t want to lose what we have & can’t see myself with anyone else. He was just such a breath of fresh air from a series of failed dates and relationships, & felt like I found something truly real for once.

Do you think he’ll get back to me? Is it worth waiting for? How long should I wait before moving on?

When I was about 10 years old a friend of mine would insist on us taking close-up pictures of each others genitals. We're both female and she was one year older than me. Our friendship wasn't exactly equal - I always felt I had to prove myself to her to be her friend. She also had a lot of anger issues.

Whenever she wanted to take these photos I felt pressured and ashamed but did it anyway. She always took these photos with my camera, and I felt terrible when I discovered them years later. They're obviously deleted now.

I've always wondered if this is normal behaviour for a kid or if it is some sort of assault?
Since this age, I've struggled with multiple symptoms usually seen in people who have been sexually abused as children, told from therapists I've seen, and it really confuses me.