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Hailey is a 20 years old single mother and has a three year old son named Jerry. Hailey never wanted a child and sees Jerry as annoying and a inconvenience. Whenever Jerry is bad she'd pinch his nose or give him the silent treatment. One day at the grocery store, Jerry stole a Candy bar. She slapped Jerry's hands and screamed bad until Jerry cried and she forced him to sit in the shopping cart. Jerry kept crying for a while but she ignored him until it was time to put him in the car. She yelled at Jerry a little more in the car.

When they got home, Jerry wanted to cuddle with Hailey like how Grandma and step Grandpa do with him. But Hailey told him to go away and pinched his nose. Jerry cried. She carried him back to his room and yelled at him to take a nap alone or else. Hailey is also emotionally unavailable. the only hugs and cuddles Jerry gets is from Grandma and step Grandpa. Sometimes Hailey leaves for weeks at a time. One time she left for three months straight.

My dad was absent & unreliable my entire life. I’m 21 now & I feel like it’s just now beginning to affect me. I can see it with the decisions I’ve made with guys. I seek the validation from men that I never received from my father. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you overcome this?

Im really learning just how influential our childhood experiences are on our current relationships. We chase the love that we’ve always known because we believe what’s familiar is better than the unknown. So if we were neglected from love as a child we tend to chase emotionally unavailable people. This knowledge blew my mind because there’s this guy that I know isn’t good for me, I really don’t even like his personality but since he’s somewhat attractive & emotionally unavailable I feel like I want him even more. I crave his love & attention & I feel like I am unworthy without it.

This knowledge makes me want to be careful that I choose the right partner before having children. At least someone that is going to actively stick around in their child’s life so they don’t have to experience this. I read that men have this issues to but it plays out differently.