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Early/casual dating can be so ambiguous.

I’d love some suggestions/tips on how to communicate interest, find clarity of how he’s feeling about things, without coming on too strong.

Met a guy online. He suggested the first date which went brilliantly - lots in common, laughter, good conversation. It felt like we had great chemistry on all levels. He told me he enjoyed it at the end, we hugged, and parted.

He texted the next day to thank me for the date. I replied saying I’d like to do it again, then he agreed that he would too.
we kept messaging, but no mention of booking another date.
after almost 2 weeks, I asked him when he’d be free. He mentioned a time (his one day off in 8 days), so we booked that in.

We had our second date yesterday. The conversation still flowed well, we laughed a few times, and spoke about some deeper things, such as struggles at work etc. we’re both nurses, in high up roles with a lot of responsibility. so we just seemed to “get” each other.
I felt more nervous though, as I’m starting to like him a bit, and I was also sleep deprived, due to a poorly timed early morning phone call from work (which I did mention to him). So I felt like I wasn’t my best self yesterday, so was worried how I came across.
He also spoke about his family and friends, telling me their names, explaining who was who, and even showing me a photo or two. So he was sharing some personal things.
3.5 hours later, I ended the date.

Im not sure if he told me whether he had a nice time or not at the end of the date, as I was feeling a bit nervous, so my mind was buzzing a bit. But I did tell him that it was nice to see him again, which he also said back to me.
we hugged briefly, then he said “I’ll see you later”.

24 hours later, he hasn’t messaged me and I haven’t messaged him.

I enjoy his company, and would like to see him again. But I don’t want to come on too strong. I also want a bit of clarity.
So I need to say something.
Any tips/suggestions/advice?

My best friend who's a little bit younger than me is in her first relationship, 3 months so far. Things have been pretty awful in it. She's got quite a lot of issues and is living alone at 17, I guess you could say she's a little high maintenance. The boy she is with, 21(not a fan of the age gap either, but it's legal where I live), is quite normal and lives a very everything's handed to him life. He comes down from another state to see her and they met online.
As soon as they started dating it was a train wreck, he was continually picking on her about her mental health problems and doing things to purposefully scare her (switching lights on and off in the pitch black house till the point she cried). İmmediately I said 'f*ck him off' and our other friend and I spoke to him about it because she was scared to. At this point she liked him, he liked her, so she wanted to keep trying in hopes maybe he just didn't understand.
Fast forward to now, the bullying stopped but they argue daily and he yells at her almost everyday he is here about something ridiculous (eg. her asking if he left knife marks on the kitchen bench. He lies saying he didn't then later admits he did and she asks why. Then he starts yelling at her) she's tried out acting call everytime it happens to make sure it wasn't her, and he will still yell at her. He can't take jokes but he expects her to take all of his mean bullying. She's on a dating site right now, which he is aware of, and believes that she could for sure find better.
She's unhappy, feels as if she hates him, they have nothing in common, it's a huge train wreck. I've mostly convinced her to separate with him because it's affecting her, he goes back home in two days and she wanted to break up with him now but she's scared so she might do it when he leaves. she's scared she will regret it, be lonely, and he will either be upset or not care at all and keeps second guessing herself. Does anyone have any advice I could pass onto her? Boys and girls!

So I thought this guy was just not interested because I always texted him, he always replied quickly and asked me questions but still because everyone told me that if he doesn’t initiate he isn’t interested. So it got to me and I got really upset, I ended up texting him angry which I shouldn’t have done and told him that I’m done. He text me saying he doesn’t want that and he likes talking to me.

Because I listened to all these online dating advice sites I got so worked up. I realized after a long chat he is a very awkward person that doesn’t find it easy to open up. I’m a extremely confident person I could have a full blown conversation with a wall. I want to ask people who find it difficult to make conversation, Is it harder for a guy because society tells us that you have to initiate all the time even if you might be extremely shy?