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Making a long story short, this isn't a question about "how to get an ex back," but I'm kinda confused about what my ex said regarding our break up. So I'll post the texts then follow up.
"I love you. There's no other guy that I'm interested in or talking to if you think that's the case cause it's not. But I feel like you really need to get a grasp on your life right now. You have a personality disorder, you're juggling school and work and sometimes you can be a lot on me and yourself. This isn't anything new. I've felt like this before we became official. But because I cared about you I was willing to help and suggest you get counseling. I'm the only one who tried to suggest you to talk to a professional and genuinely see about your well being. Remember that. But now it's not fair to me. I think we need a break. Not a week long break but us going our separate ways. We've been having discussions like these a lot and it hasn't solved anything. I still want to stay in contact with you though. I'm not saying we're done forever but in order for us to have a future you need to work on your present life. I'm not cutting you out of my life but I'm giving you the space to give your all to (my name) so you can be the man you wanna be." At the end of this long text I might come off as probably a terrible boyfriend (at the time). She made me feel guilty about my actions although it takes two people in the relationship, I didn't make an issue and bring up things she's done, just agreed with her leading to a very subtle breakup.
"Feels good to know we're on the same page instead of this becoming an argument and us hating each other like I've experienced before. If we didn't break up now, you'd probably end up losing me for good later. If I didn't want to be with you in the future I wouldn't be speaking to you right now. You'd be cut off in all forms." which followed up the end of our convo with exchanges of "I love you," and that's it. .

Would you support a government policy that encouraged relational education prior to getting married or having the 1st offspring? The idea would be to improve the quality of relationships in your country and thus reduce social burden and improve livelihood of people. The reward would be a tax benefit for the married couple.

Example policy would provide educational support courses [at a certain age], training on relationships, and professional counseling for the woman and man. A certification test would be required and approval from a counseling board. Certification is required and standards would have to be upheld. Approved counselors would need to provide approval they are ready for marriage. They could get married without approval, but would not get the tax benefit if they failed. Followup counseling sessions would also be required as part of the plan.

If a child is on the way or within some period of time, they have to attend a variety of training classes on nutrition, relationships, parenting skills, counseling. Counseling could lead to other required treatments for mental health. Certification is required and if they are not approved, they don't get the benefit (see below) and have to continue

Reward for the work would be a deduction on taxes. The deduction on taxes would be an immediate loss to tax payers with the idea being would reduce social costs in crime and improve social well being.

There is a net gain in jobs, so some benefit in economic activity... although the money comes from social taxation... cost to tax payers in short term.


Note: Flaws: at some point if enough people are married... single people are paying for married people and there aren't enough of them... yea... nothing is perfect... details...