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My mother used to meddle too much and gossip bad things about my boyfriend. She literally made others believe he was using me for sex. He talked about him as if he was the worst guy ever. Her best friend at the time (an older woman who was also my friend) died years ago. She died believing he was using me for sex, for my virginity.

The reason he got upset and visited me less was because one day my mother herself said ''don't come, my husband's friend and relatives are coming over for a whole week, you can come some other time''. He close to my house already and he felt excluded, hurt and offended. So he got upset and then my mother got upset at his reaction (him not coming over anymore) and started gossiping endlessly about him. Then she insulted him on my b-day, issued him a false apology over the phone and continued being a fake person for years. His friendship with her was a falsity for years.

Only after her health started getting worst and this pandemic not going away, she started softening her stance and has accepted him by now. I told her the real version, which she questioned why I never spoke up for him. She wouldn't have listened. She only started listening to me now. It took him a long time (years) for him to finally forgive her.

My boyfriend started forgiving someone this year.

The offense was committed in 2007. He tried to forgive in 2010, only to confirm his suspicious that the offender was fake/insincere in the apology, kept talking garbage about him behind his back and continue repeating the same offense multiple times over the years.

He never got a real apology/closure but has recently decided to close the chapter and let it go. He only decided to let it go (whether they're sorry or not) for his own health. He said he kept punishing himself by not letting go. Still was 13 years a lot of time spent?