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So basically I realize how irrational I'm being but I get really anxcious and tend to get really worked up (Heavy breathing, heart beats faster, mind goes on overdrive) when I know my boyfriend has been talking to his friends that are girls. The thing is, it's all innocent coversation. It can be talking about cats, to sending silly face pictures, but it still makes me incredibly jealous cause it feels like I'm "sharing" him per say, I know it's just a friendship but it feels like even if it's innocent things, that he's bonding with them in some way.

They're only online friends which I think is the part that bothers me because we blossemed our relationship online for 4 years long distance before we actually moved and started living together. Now that we live together we don't text/online chat as much as we used to (obv cause we see eachother everyday, go out, do things, talk in person, cuddle, etc)

My insecurities/jealousy have become over wheming to me now and I don't even know how to stop my mind from overthinking a situation and then I just get irritated with him even though he's done nothing wrong. I don't want to stop him from having female friends, I just don't understand why he just can't have guy friends only... Pleaseee if anyone has any advice/tips for me on dealing with my jealousy situation I would love to hear it! =[ I don't want these insecurities of mine to ruin our otherwise perfect relationship.

Ps. I've talked with him about it so much to the point where he would stop talking to them if I wanted him too, just so I don't bring it up again. I just don't want to be controlling but I can't help the way i feel =[

I work together with my boyfriend in the same company, and there's a girl that has been driving me mad with jealousy for the past 2 weeks.
He knows about it, yet last night right after I left a party with our coworkers, he, this girl and 2 other guys went to his place and stayed up drinking til 7 AM. I asked him, he said he knew I'd be mad but "it's not a big deal" and just wanted to have fun after he was sad that I left.

Is it as bad as it feels?
I feel so humilliated and betrayed, don't know if that's normal.
Some backstory: he's a really jealous guy himself, and I've ended my friendship with 2 guys at the office because of it, which I'm sort of okay with, but I though it's fair for me to expect the same..