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Me and my ex boyfriend broke it off 4 months ago
But he wanted to remain friends after the break up
So he would still message me several times a week
And sometimes he would call me just to talk
And wants to hang out once a week (to cinema, to lunch or dinner, etc)
he's always the one initiating

About 1 month ago, I met this new guy from a mutual friend
We have been seeing each other ever since
And we made out after the 2nd date
I didn't tell my ex boyfriend about him because deep down, I still love my ex and dont want to lose him

2 days ago, I went out with the new guy and after dinner, we made out and it got heavy
He gave me a love bite
I freaked out because the next day, I was seeing my ex boyfriend for lunch
So the next day ( which was yesterday), I tried covering the love bite before seeing my ex but it failed
My ex was like "what is that? Is that a love bite?"
And then I confessed to him that I was seeing another guy
He seemed hurt but he kept asking me these questions:
"How old is he?"
"What nationality is he?"
"What job does he do?"
"Is he funny?"
"Does he treat you right?"
"Does he seem like a nice guy?"

Then he said:
"Im happy that you found someone"
"I hope he makes you happy and treats you right"
But he didn't talk to me as much afterwards when he drove me back home from lunch

Why did my ex boyfriend ask me these questions?

I like him for almost a year but we are friends for 2 year now. I really want to tell him how I feel before it is too late. We both graduated but will probably stay in the same city.. I dont know if I should tell him because since next year we will still be close I would really be nervous around him. I also dont want to lose him as a friend... should I? by the way he is also very close to me and sometimes flirty but maybe he just acts this way to every girl.

So this was over a month ago and things seem to have leveled out. But I’m left wondering about my behavior as being overly helpful and possibly making someone uncomfortable.

The door swings both ways with Me Too moments.

A guy I’m fairly chummy with in a twice a week smalller workout class happened upon me after class as I was leaving the shower room asking if I had seen his car keys.

I was caught off guard messing with my phone. I said I’d let the others know. This is a corporate provided workout and most of the people in it are in my company. I sent a group email about the keys not mentioning who lost them.

I circle back to the gym and ask him to enter his cell into mine and let him know I emailed the group about the keys.

CREEPY ON MY PART!! I hit send on my phone out of habit so it looked like I was hitting on him. He made this kind of shocked move then smiled and ran his hand through his hair whilst finding next words. I realized I was sending the wrong message.

I deleted his number at the end of the day. Seeing as no one in my group would be of help after that.

He was kind of standoffish for a while. I don’t think he was happy I emailed the others about the keys.

I then reflected on all the bits of social media you get access to on a person if you have their number and felt like a real creep.

He avoided me and is now back to friendly as usual.

A friend in our class told me I was being oblivious, he didn’t lose his keys and was just trying to start an exchange but I embarrassed him by letting others know about the keys. Obvy made up.

My stance is I crossed a line if he is in a relationship, we don’t talk above it these things but he has a little one.

I dont wear my engagement ring to class because it hurts and will get damaged.

I just want things to be cool. Something out of nothing?

i just don’t want to make similar mistakes with other people in the future.