Search Results: friends with benefits rules

We know each other from a team sports, we are on the same team. He's good, I'm good, we acknowledged each other's goodness (I don't think he's threatened by me, although my edu level is higher). He's younger. I'm the team hottie though.

We flirted. I dared him. He answered. Well, in the end we had sex. A few times.
I kinda blew him off a year ago because I felt that I wanted something serious. And he didn't seem into it as he never asked me out for a real date. I didn't have "the talk" but assumed that he only wanted sex (I think girls have "the talk" for closure, usually we already know the answer deep down). So I just kinda stopped the booty calls for a time.
Then we took a break, during which each of us got into a serious relationship. And later we both separated from them.

Lately we got together again. We only meet for sex (although officially there is a "reason" to meet but it escalates to sex). He displays all the classical signs that this is all he wants (I think...), such as not telling anyone in the team, no communication besides to set time/date, we don't eat together, etc.
But lately he says "I'm so hot on you" and talks about his past, friends, family, life. That is not in the rule book, is it? Also there are sleepovers. We even cuddled last time (!!!).

So again the banal question: Is there more to it? Can this be a beginning of a beautiful friendship?

Or should I stop this? I am liking him more and more (him being great in bed doesn't help...)

I have been seeing this guy for three months, so I thought it was enough time for him to decide what he wants. He randomly said out of the blue that he didn't want a girlfriend and it was a friends with benefits thing only. Now, this would usually be fine with me if he hadn't have been leading me on and he had told me this before we'd slept together and met each others parents and what not:

1.) We cuddle for quite a long time even if we don't have sex.
2.) He's keen to hang out when he knows I'm not having sex with him (periods etc..)
3.) He's met my friends, I've met his
4.) He has dinner at my place and gets along well with my mum
5.) We go out to lunch/coffee/dinner etc..
6.) He initiates conversation every day (uses beautiful, gorgeous and terms of endearment regularly)

In a friends with benefits relationship for me, it's little communication outside of nudes/sexting/arranging to meet up. Little to no cuddling and definitely not hanging out with parents, seeing each other outside of the bedroom and hanging out with friends together.

Is it wrong of me to have got the wrong impression? What are the rules and boundaries in a friends with benefits relationship? Why is he doing this?

Does the girl have to ask for what she wants from the relationship or the guy has to set those rules? do you take it if the other person was willing to compromise to make the relationship work?

Example: lets say the person wanted a friends with benefits situation but the girl didnot , and the guy likes the girl enough to compromise and give the girl a relationship to make it work, do you accept it?