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I'm a freshman in college and recently I've started talking to this dude. After three weeks we had sex. We have a couple times and I have never been had sex with anyone without being in a relationship. When it first happened I asked are we just messing around or are you trying to have a relationship. He said he eventually wants a relationship. But he never asks me about myself and when I tried to play 21 questions he just asked stupid questions. been s couple of weeks and he recently only wants me to go to his dorm and I don't like going there. It's just awkward his friends are always there at first. Everything I ask him to hang out he has an excuse. I feel like I need to be in a relationship if Im going to have sex with someone. This past week I stopped texting to him as much and he texted me asking if I was still into him. And I told him I feel like im putting out more that him. He said Thats not true and I should've said something. But that was It he changed the conversation. I have him in a class and he always talks and messes with me. I Feel like I'm putting myself through too much especially since we're not together. I just can't do it I catch feelings when I have sex.

This is quite a long story so I'll try to tell it in the short version. I met this guy through mutual friends and we have been hanging out in groups and have been texting each other. Also the first night we met he flirted with me and we spent some time alone together, though nothing happened. Later in our texting conversations he told me about his non-existant love life and hinted that he would like something to happen between us, but since those messages things have been a bit awkward when we meet, though I do catch him looking at me. I first thought he was being shy, but now my friend says that he normally isn't shy around girls (though he hasn't had anything serious for a while now), and that he had a fling with one of his female friends. She also thought he always messes up in his relationships.
I was really surprised by this, because I got a completely different impression of him! Also because we really discussed our feelings and he told me about some of his insecurities and that he felt that he had messed up in the past and was trying to get his life back on track. So now I am thinking, because this guy seems so different to me than the image his friends have of him, is he just messing with me? Or could he still like me and therefore act different when we are alone?
AND what should I do about it? Should I hint to him that I would like to spend time with him?