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I dated this guy Rick in college (college was 5 years ago) for 4 months and we got along great. Rick is bipolar therefore he has trouble holding any relationship. He abruptly broke up with me and crushed me in the process. Rick also went back to an ex to top things off.

I moved on and dated others after him. A year or so later a mutual friend set me up with Adam who happens to be Rick's best friend. Adam and I got along great but Adam did not want a serious girlfriend in college so we kept as friends over the past 4 years.

I had been in a serious relationship that ended in September because I wasn't happy. I dated Brett for 4 years. Around October Rick got back in contact with me. I truly believe he ended up being my rebound. We messed around and hooked up but he told me that I needed to be single for awhile etc. So he made the decision to end things again. The last time I was around him was New Years.

Randomly, Adam started talking to me again in about February. On a friend level making sure I was ok then it has gotten more serious as the months have gone on. In March we took it past friends and kissed. Lately, we have been going on dates and cuddling etc. So far he has been keeping it quiet from Rick because he wanted to give it some more time. This past weekend Adam was a date to a wedding with me that I was in.

He says he is waiting for the right time to tell Rick that we have been hanging out. He plans to do it soon. Guys, if you were in Rick's shoes and your buddy Adam is happy talking to this girl (me) how would you react?

How should I proceed with it?

Disclaimer - I have been with a total of 5 guys in my life. Before you go judging me on this. It wasn't like I had planned for this to happen either time.

I'm having trouble getting over my ex. firstly, because he's in my class, I see him everyday and it's just so hard not to think about him when he's right here. And secondly, because my girlfriends keep saying he still loves me.

Now, well, yeah, he's always standing up for me. He's always there if I need something. But if he loves me, why'd he break up? And even after our break up we used to be really good friends, until he suddenly kinda broke that up too because his new crush was insecure of me. Why'd he do that? And why'd he even have a crush on someone else? A few weeks ago we used to have long conversations, but now whenever I try to talk to him he just replies "yes" or "no". Why?

When I asked my friends why they thought he still loves me, they said it is just so obvious. They say we're meant to be. And that he does love me, he's might just not be showing it because of some reason.

Do they just say all that because they don't want to upset me? Or am I missing something, does he actually he still love me?