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Cheating these days to me seems like it happens too much, among my friends it is probably the top reason why they end up breaking up with their partners. A lot of people who started out with boyfriends/girlfriends at my University ended up breaking up, the main reason being cheating, making out with others and just having sex. I know a couple of people whose partners have cheated on them and they got back together. It seems that its just accepted. My step-mother even divorced her first husband because he cheated on her.

I don't have a set opinion on this as I know it varies with circumstances. What are your thoughts?

Me and my boyfriend of 7 years have been going at it a lot lately, mostly about him talking to other females. He is very flirtatious and will give or take a phone number from anyone. He also lies a lot. So i kicked him out everyday for a month I finally drew the line and told him by Friday he had to leave. He left but didn't take anything. He came over almost every day to see our kids and take a bath then I started letting him sleep over basically he never left! My hopes of breaking up and him leaving were for him to appreciate me and realize how important our family is to him. I started to see improvement he started spending more time with me and our kids and he would call me and answered the phone when I would call he'd even text me back. He would tell me daily how much he loved me and wanted to make things work and that he wanted to come home permanently I told him he had to stay consistent and keep showing me he wanted the relationship he did here and there but he never really gave it his all this has been going on for 3 weeks so a few days ago I find a few hair strands in his beard I question him and he tells me if he were doing anything with anyone besides me he would tell me so me being skeptical I check his online phone records and confront him I even had a conversation with the female in front of him basically he and she have been having a fling for a month and they have had unprotected sex at least once I have also have had unprotected sex with him 4 days before I found out and he has not been in contact with her and she has contacted me to apologize because he told her he had no contact with me at all he swears he will be a better man but he has promised in the past to change his cheating lying ways he's even volunteered to go to counseling and church so he can be a better spouse and father I don't know what to think I love him so much but having unprotected sex is so low down and dirty especially when you don't know the person from a hole in the wall

If your male friends with benefits does the following:
- taking showers together
- watching movies together
- mentioning you in a sentence " I hate sl*ts that cheat. Imagine if we had a quarrel and cheat on me"
- having breakfasts together the morning after
- joking about him "breaking up with me" for me to say that I don't want him to leave me
- saying he doesn't use you, otherwise he would always leave after sex, as there would be no point in staying. but he stays every time. he also wouldn't spend much time with me.
- having walks
- he makes a list of movies we both should watch
- he tell you we don't have to have sex every time he stays for the night
- he says we should get used to simply spend time together (without having sex)
- you both become closer when starting friends with benefits relationship
- acting silly
- he jokingly gets jealous over me and other guys who notice me (or are just my male friends)

BUT:
- he told you before ( 3 weeks ago) he doesn't want to have any relationships as he was heartbroken by a girl who broke up with him 3 years ago and since then restricts himself from relationships
- now he says he got used to me
- he doesn't want to touch or kiss in front of strangers

So what does he actually want? A relationship or just friends with benefits with more benefits? Our relationship is getting beter and closer as time passes.