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I'm in this situation
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years
I really am in love with him
He's close to few people at his work and his gym
But he stopped talking to the guys at the gym due to reasons and he stopped talking to his other friends he met from high school as they all become distant from one another
And he doesn't hang out outside of work with his work friends
And he stopped talking to his family because he had really bad history with them from childhood because of physical abuse from his father and no protection from his mother
So anyway
At first I was fine with this
And I have introduced him to most of my friends and now we're all friends
But ever since his birthday, I was thinking about few things
I organized his surprise birthday party and invited my friends
Then all my friends are all questioning me like
"where's his friends?"
"doesn't he have his own friends?"
And then I had to kind of explain why

But it kind of hit me...
Especially when my best friend said to me "make sure he's not dependent on you, like people that doesn't have any friends or not close with family, needs someone there for them, they're very fragile people"
And then I told her "hes not really clingy though, he has 2 jobs, he's focusing on his swimming training and gym most of the times, and he doesn't mind seeing me once or twice a week but he does call me every night to talk, but he's not dependent on me"

But then Im thinking to myself "what if we get married? Who is he going to invite to the wedding? Is it just going to be only my family and friends? Who would be his best man? Etc etc"

Is it a bad thing if you date someone that is not close with their family and doesn't have much friends?
I really do love him
Im so in love with him
he's such an amazing guy
He treats me right
he's so caring and affectionate
he's always there for me when I needed him
he's never cheated on me
he's the best boyfriend I've ever had

This guy and I are a fantastic match as far as compatibility is concerned. We share the same sense of humour, have similar interests and on the same page in terms of morals and values. He is actually boyfriend material. Very caring and attentive also.

Date 1 was bowling. We had a great time. We were affectionate and the date ended with a kiss. Date 2 he took me on a jetboat ride and lunch afterwards, great time again.

In between these dates I wasn't really feeling that magic excitement to hurry up and see him again. I wasn't even feeling the need to text or talk everyday with him. It left me confused as to why. I did have a little bit of an attraction to him but it was just so so.

On the second date when he dropped me home, I invited him in. We got very sexy on the couch, straddling him, bit of grinding and massive make out session. I hadn't done anything like this with anyone since I broke up with my ex 4 mths ago so naturally I was getting a little excited at the thought another man was totally into me and desired me that way.

Because he wasn't actually setting me alight with his kisses I decided to sleep with him more so because I wanted to see if having sex would ignite something and whether afterwards I would feel some sort of bond or attachment. I didn't feel attachment. The sex itself was not bad.

Isn't it meant to be happy and exciting, your supposed to want to shag the shit out of that person every time you are together. Your supposed to want to chat with them daily and initiate the affection and flirting. Your supposed to want to hurry up and see them again. It was like that with my 2nd husband, I was giddy with excitement and it was like that with my ex, by the third date with my ex I was totally lost in him and wanted to be with him all the time. I compared all that to this lovely guy and it wasn't there... The actual spark with this guy has been a little lacklustre and my attitude has been just "meh". Why?

Let's say you meet a kind, intelligent, gentle fun loving black man who's 20. He's 5'3, is skinny and has dreadlocks but he's very affectionate and loves holding hands and is a gentle soul. He also cried in front of you because he hasn't slept in the last three days and it made him upset. Would you date a guy like this?