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I'm married, and so is the guy I'm seeing on the side. We both have kids, and our marriages are both on the rocks. The guy, whom I'll call Jim, worked with my husband, and one night we all decided to get together and double date at a bowling alley. His wife "Nina" and I didn't get along from the beginning. We were drinking rum before we left, and drank a lot of beer at the bowling alley. I went outside to smoke a cigarette, and when I came back in there was Jim by the door, and he gave me a hug. It was pretty innocent, and he told me I give the best hugs. I enjoyed it because, well, I was attracted to him. We all took a taxi back to my house, where we drank more and played cards. We all had fun, but the hug was still on my mind. After cards, they slept in my kids room because the kids weren't home and everyone was drunk, so they stayed. Needless to say, I got up in the middle of the night and found Jim and started making out with him in the hallway. Then we went into the living room and kissed for hours. No sex obvi bc our spouses were in other rooms. The whole week afterward we texted nonstop. He came back the following weekend, and we did it again, with my husband passed out in the other room. After that we have pretty much been inseparable.. this was 3 months ago. He quit his job and stopped talking to my husband entirely now. There is no sign that we ever talk to or see each other. We have fallen so madly and deeply in love with each other that it's scary. I can't go a moment without thinking about him or worrying about him. I mean, damn.. he quit his job for me!! I'm trying to move out in a month. I'm not going to move in with this guy, at least not for a long time.. I'm not leaving my husband for him, I'm leaving for me. It isn't fair to my husband either for me to be here. I'm just wondering if I should trust him. I really think I can, but the whole thing has got me in a tailspin like this is a bad way to start a relationship. I KNOW he loves me.. no question

I got drunk for the first time with my BF of one month. He was not drunk and said he loved me during sex. After we were done I asked if he loved me and he said yes even though I knew he just said it to make me happy. The next night, sober, I asked him the same question and he said it's too soon. I completely agree. The following weekend he blew me off because of work and friends which he's never done the entire time we've been dating. I asked him to fix it and he didn't. I knew his feelings changed even though he kept denying it and he broke up with me. He said we are moving too fast and he can't give me what I deserve right now. He said he wants a short break. I asked him if he remembered saying what he said during sex and he said no.

Is it completely over? Will a short break fix anything or does he just not have the balls to call it quits permanately?

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I appreciate the time you take to read my story.