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So I meet this girl my sophomore year of high school, in marching band. Long story short, we went out once and offically "dated" for two months later sophomore year. The break up was mutual, realizing that we really didn't have time for a relationship. It was also my first relationship along with hers. We remained good friends ever since. Fast foward to Senior Year of high school. Due to my job, I saw her a lot, and then I got reassigned. Even though we go to the same school, I went from seeing her almost daily to almost never. When she found out about an opportunity to where I could get reassigned so that I would see her, she talked to my bosses and got me transfered to a shift that I would see her. When prom came, she was going with another guy as friends, and I was going with another girl as friends. When she found out she really wanted to make a group, so I agreed. (She also made a big deal, about NOT wanting to date her prom friind) In the past two weeks, we have texted more and talked about just about everything. Which is very unusual for her. She has also invited me to come to a few of her track meets, which due to different reasons I have not been able to make. (I do plan on possably going to susprise her at the state finals next weekend) The other big tip was when she invited me to go out with her and her friends to lunch, and insisted that I sit right next to her. Same thing happened at a friend of her's grad party, she invited me to come and then set it up so I would have to sit next to her. Im just not sure of what to do next. Her friends have aggreed that she is acting kind of strange around me, they just are not sure what it means though. However, her friends are confident that she does not want to date the guy she went to prom with. Sould I ask her out? The only issue is that she has said to her friends she does not want a summer fling, because she will be going away (2 hour drive) away from home for college). Im just so unsure about what to do.

I have been thinking for awhile and observed for a while, it appears to me more and more that dating these days to most people is a chore and not a magical experience. This is the same for friendship as well.

I was talking to some women that are at least 10 - 20 years older than me today at a company where I was dropping something off there. While waiting, I start having conversations with these ladies and they all seem to be OK with everything, very out going, no expectation, no games, just regular every day conversation.

Then I went up to another group of women who are somewhat at the same age group or maybe a little younger. The atmosphere just change drastically. Conversations were dry, showing signs that they are being very irritated. They seem uncomfortable with everything. So I stopped.

Then I am thinking to myself in terms of social interaction is concern. I realized that people are treating social activities like a prescribed chores with step by step instructions and people must do what is written on it. I very rarely get into any in depth conversation with anyone. At best, random bantering for hours with no real purpose in the conversation. If I do have a nice conversation with someone, it doesn't last long, unless if it is about business matter.

For example, I noticed that I cannot start a conversation with people unless I make some ridiculous comment first. If I try, it leads to a dry one word answer with a dirty look on their face saying "Why are you even talking?!" or they completely ignore you.

I feel as though I have to be someone that must execute everything little thing perfectly to have a conversation with someone these days. It seems very robotic to me when I read dating tips or relationship articles about how man and women should do this and that. Watch out for their body language, eye contacts, touching, cross arms, cross legs, sneezing, pick their nose, etc.

Have we become a nation to converse with one another systematically like our jobs?

Shouldn't social activities be an adventure and magical?

I often think about my friends that date a lot, do they actually feel those magical experience? or do they just date because they know the formula? However, I do noticed that they are never satisfy with their partners. There is always seem to be something wrong with each other.

So I am guessing they initially attract to one another based on what makes them feel good, rather than what is logically possible with them.

What are your thoughts?