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So I've always wondered this, and it's not mean to be inflammatory or offensive. But why do people insist that it makes one "gay" to be attracted to trans people?
Especially if they're "passing"? Or if they're post op, meaning a surgically created vagina for MTF trans women, or surgically created penis for FTM trans men?

I can kinda understand the argument of it being somewhat gay if they're pre op or non op (pre operation, no operation) and they still have original genitals, let's say if you're a man and performing oral on a trans woman who still has a penis doesn't seem fully straight to me.

HOWEVER, a lot of people still think a post op (already had top and bottom surgery - breasts added or removed according to their gender, and genitals surgically crafted into their gender of identity) who are passing is gay to be attracted to them. Why? At first glance, you can't tell for many that their biological sex, and even for pre op or non op, you can't see their genitals (unless they're naked, which most people aren't when you first meet them).
And I'm not saying people should force attraction or dating trans people. You still have the choice not to. I see that whole stigma in being attracted to trans people for fear of being gay (especially for men) and I've always wondered. I just think claiming someone is gay is a bit exaggerated at times. This isn't meant to harm or offend, I'm just genuinely curious.

TLDR: Is it gay to be attracted to trans people who are passing? Why or why not?

Do these trans women look like men? I doubt the average gay man would be attracted to them:

Do these trans men look like women? Again, I doubt the average lesbian would be attracted to them:

I want to find someone but it’s been hard. I’m not one to casually flirt. I don’t enjoy sex. This may be TMI but I’ve never given oral to a man and I don’t want to. I’m not affectionate. And a psychological comment to add to that is I’m paranoid and feel like if im talking to a man, they’re always being disloyal. I’ve tried online and it’s been horrible. I sometimes wonder if even being interested in a man is worth my time. What do you all think?