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For a few months, I've been trying to get over my unrequited feelings for a friend. I cut communications and avoided things that would make me think about her. If I found myself fantasising about her, I would tell myself no and even lie to myself and say she's probably with someone else by now.

I've made considerable progress: I've accepted that what I had for her was an unhealthy obsession and the life with her I built up in my head could be with anyone else... I just haven't met that person yet. I've tried to better myself by taking up hobbies and going to the gym. I also find myself thinking about her less: Romantic feelings do still occur at times, but I know to distract myself.

Recently, she sent a message to a group chat involving me, her and another friend which I had forgotten to mute; it rarely got used. She texted about not hearing from either me or the other friend in awhile and was wondering if we wanted to play some online games this weekend?

I've thought about the idea of talking to her again: She does care for me... but as a friend. One of my regrets is cutting contact with her without a word, though it was something I needed to do in order to at the time. While i'd like us to be friends again, I understand we might not be able to be friends anymore and I dunno if i'm ready to talk again... Then again, how will i know if I'm ready to talk again?

I could lie and say i'm busy, but she seems to really miss spending time together and I would like to try and rekindle our friendship. I thought it would be easier to talk to her if I knew what was going on with her. So I broke the rules and looked her Facebook posts. Honestly... It wasn't that bad: I didn't really feel anything looking at her. But i'm worried if I talk to her again, it might undo all the progress I have made getting over her thus far.

I'm not sure what to do; i'm indecisive. Does anyone have any advice/suggestions?