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OK... it's confession time, I admit it, I am super nosey.

I don't mean in a bad way, but if I hear someone talking to someone else in a conversation near me, and it sparks my curiosity, than I just have to try and listen to the rest of the conversation to see what is being said. I have even told my sisters or friends to "shush", so that I could continue to listen in on a nearby conversation like at a restaurant or other public place and then they started listening too... lol

Or, maybe someone is sitting next to me, like at the library, etc, and texting with someone and I can see their text out of the corner of my eye, it's like OMG! ... why can't I stop looking? ... am I too big of a snoop? ... It's like I can't control myself!

When my computer was being fixed and I used my sisters... well, let's just say that how I know what kind of naughty things she looks at and messages she sends... lol

How wrong is it to snoop on others?

Have you ever done this? How many times have you looked in your siblings or SO's phone to see what they were up to?

DON'T LIE! ... we know you're not as clean as the wind driven snow, so don't pretend that you are... lol

I wouldn’t snoop through my boyfriend’s phone without his permission. But I honestly feel like I can’t believe what he says because he’s lied to me and broke my trust. He’s recently started talking to a girl he slept with while were on a break, she doesn’t even qualify as an ex. He never wanted to date her and he made that clear. Yet she wanted a relationship with him and was very childish when she found out we were getting back together. I don’t mind if they’re just civil friends, but it does make me uncomfortable to think of them being too close and I don’t believe that’s just jealousy and insecurity talking. I believe if he’s in a committed relationship with me, there should be boundaries between them.

I asked him some time ago if they were talking again, and he lied to me. Then a week later I brought it up saying how uncomfortable it made me felt, and that’s when he decided to tell me. I was hurt. I have been cheated on before, and my ex used text to cheat. So I do have trust issues, but at the same time my current boyfriend is displaying the same behavior my ex did when he started cheating on me and I just can’t ignore it.

I asked if he could show me the texts to clarify there’s nothing going on, and he told me it was an invasion of privacy. But he broke my trust and our relationship is on the fence now. So he told me he’d think about it. I’m so confused, if he has nothing to hide then why would he not want to just show me and things could get back on track. But if he chooses to keep hiding things from me then obviously this relationship isn’t going anywhere.

So is it really controlling of me to ask for the texts? If so, what are some other options for us to work through this?

Everyone at work thought we had a crush on each other. There were times where he would approach my desk. He even laid his body across my desk to look at my pictures. He pointed to one of my pictures and gave it a thumbs up and said cute. He told me I was socially awkward. He sometimes messes around with me by pulling small pranks. I remember I confronted him about the rumors of us and asked if felt awkward because everyone kept pushing us to get together and I didn't want to upset him with what's circulating. He would get really irritated when people made subtle comments about us. He said didn't feel awkward and didn't deny anything. He joked that we should go on a double date. Another day he told me to take his number down if I want to talk about it more. I didn't take his number but got his social media page.
He started to act weird and ignore me and even talk about me to coworkers. I got upset and he/I didn't talk or interact with each other for a week. I deleted him off social media where he can't follow me or see my post. Then I find out he's seeing another person who used to work with us. She's supposedly engaged to someone else but they've gone on dates. She sent him a romantic gift to our job. So I ended up backing off completely. Fast forward to now, I saw him snooping on my social media page watching my stories. (My profile is public).
We slowly started interacting by making small talk again. He messaged me and asked me to do a favor. I don't know why but I said sure. He wanted me to make something for him. I ended up giving him my number. I did the project for him and he says thank you, he appreciates it. Didn't even say thank you, I owe you one or I'll give you some snacks... Nothing. I don't know if this guy like legit hates me/likes messing around with me for fun.

This guy and I work together.
Everyone at work thought we had a crush on each other. There were times where he would approach my desk. He even laid his body across my desk to look at my pictures. He pointed to one of my pictures and gave it a thumbs up and said cute. He told me I was socially awkward. He sometimes messes around with me by pulling small pranks. I remember I confronted him about the rumors of us and asked if felt awkward because everyone kept pushing us to get together and I didn't want to upset him with what's circulating. He would get really irritated when people made subtle comments about us. He said didn't feel awkward and didn't deny anything. He joked that we should go on a double date. Another day he told me to take his number down if I want to talk about it more. I didn't take his number but got his social media page.
He started to act weird and ignore me and even talk about me to coworkers. I got upset and he/I didn't talk or interact with each other for a week. I deleted him off social media where he can't follow me or see my post. Then I find out he's seeing another person who used to work with us. She's supposedly engaged to someone else but they've gone on dates. She sent him a romantic gift to our job. So I ended up backing off completely. Fast forward to now, I saw him snooping on my social media page watching my stories. (My profile is public).
We slowly started interacting by making small talk again. He messaged me and asked me to do a favor. I don't know why but I said sure. He wanted me to make something for him. I ended up giving him my number. I did the project for him and he says thank you, he appreciates it. Didn't even say thank you, I owe you one or I'll give you some snacks... Nothing. I don't know if this guy like legit hates me/likes messing around with me for fun.

For example ,

If your significant other caught you cheating by snooping through your social media messages and all the photos you've liked of the opposite sex. would you be angry?

I read this morning about Whatsapp features that will be added soon – and one of them included a feature which automatically deletes messages after a certain time frame. The article even said it was perfect for cheating lovers and stated it in a way that sounded positive. I think it’s appalling? Why are Whatsapp encouraging secrecy? Everyone is obviously entitled to their privacy of course and no one’s partner should be snooping on their phones and invading privacy all the time. However, there are so many men and women who have gut feelings that their partners are cheating, suspecting something but no evidence. That last resort of checking the phone is either reassurance or confirmation of any activity. I know that if was being cheated on, I would want to know as soon as possible so I didn’t waste another breath on the loser.

People have obviously been having affairs since the dawn of time, but life nowadays makes it easier to cheat with longer work hours, more travel and of course the use of mobile phones. But I always felt that at least this was cancelled out by the fact that it was easier to get caught cheating. I also feel like the culture these days is so sexually free that it almost encourages you to get out there and experiment and go after your desires even if you are in a relationship. Many people aren’t in it for the long haul anymore, they just see people and practically assume they aren’t going to last. Why can’t we discourage cheaters? Make it easier for them to get caught? Cheating does so much damage, sometimes lasting damage on individuals and their confidence and can screw up their future relationships. Most cheaters usually regret their actions or at least aren’t proud of them.

Obviously there are exceptions with everything and feel free to disagree, just no arguments please!