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I'm sure many women here have heard this time and time again, about whether being a virgin male would be a deal breaker, and just as many said it would all depend on the reason... so here's mine.

I grew up watching things Like Maury, Jerry Springier, Snapped Various Shows that show what happens when a relationship goes south from rushing in to quickly or being irresponsible about it.

My Parents relationship wasn't always the most... stable either, as my father was obsessed with bills and money and would always get frustrated when it comes to the topic more often then not. Which was made all the more apparent when he otherwise kept his cool.

Not to mention the constant reminder of Deadbeat dads that ran out on their families cause they could never pay child support.

And A large part of that had to do with women getting pregnant too young, or both men and women being particularly loose when it came to relationships.

So, as a young teen, I decided to put relationships on hold and focus on my studies, I wanted to make sure that i was a responsible, dependable and reliable young man who had his own bank and once he had a family could make sure his wife and children wanted for naught.

Now I feel like i wasted my time doing so, as my desire to be a person worthy of respect is met with whispered mocking due to my lack of experience, my age, and general light mocking.

So that's it, I willingly practiced celibacy to focus on school and getting work, and my reward for it is getting blindsided by societies double standards about when a man should get his cherry popped.

So Please be honest with me, would a man being a virgin still be a turn off knowing all this?

It was approximately 2 years ago.

I was 21 at the time and in college. There was this girl whom I had met 8 months prior to that and we lost our virginities to each other.

At the time, I thought she was the only girl for me. I thought I was "in love". I was 20 and she was 16 when we lost our virginities to each other.

Well anyways, there was an argument and I made a terrible mistake out of retailiation and told her sister I "popped her cherry". The girl told me she never wanted to speak to me again over text message.

Overtime, I felt my heart was broken and kept messaging her in hopes that one day she would see how much I missed her.

Well, fast forwarding, I was 21 and in college. I was seeing all these couples on campus and I felt lonely. I made a decision to drive to her home state and ask her to her prom. She was 17 at that time. I brought her a cake, which read something like "will you go to prom with me". I wanted to sincerely apologize for betraying her

When I went to her house to give it to her, her dad called the cops and had me arrested.

Looking back on it now, I realized I wasn't in love. In reality, I was a lonely guy that never had a girlfriend (and still never had one) and when we lost our virginities, I barely knew her. I think it would of been special if we had a relationship first before we had sex.

But I have Aspergers and it is hard to understand social skills and the meaning of things.