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I went on a date with this girl, who I had tons in common with, we talked for hours and ended up kissing. We both expressed a desire for a second, however on the day she said she wasn't feeling well and could we postpone. When I offered her an alternative, I said she didn't have to if she didn't want to, she said she liked me (I agreed) & really wanted to see me again, but her ex had told her he wants to get back together. She said she didn't know what to do, does she stay with someone she has a connection with or try something new with someone new and see what happens, I told her to think about why they broke up and if it's still relevant. She said he wouldn't make an effort and would skip dates, and that he seemed to just want to sleep with her, nothing else. I said she should do what's best for her and not to consider our feelings. She said she'll see if he can change, but probably nothing will happen. We met for a drink as friends, and had a great time. I asked her if we were just friends or if we could be something more, she asked if we could just be friends and would be gutted to lose me as a friend. We still text every few days and talk, and have met up a couple of times, however her boyfriend is jealous and doesn't like us talking. My friends say she still likes me as she wants to keep me around even though I'm a threat to her relationship, and that she's dropping hints for me to express feelings by asking what to do. However she doesn't have that many friends and I think she may just be worried about losing a friend. Her and her boyfriend have moved quite quickly, he practically lives at hers and she's talking about moving in, (but is she doing that to see my reaction and wants me to express feelings?), she's also going to his parents this weekend for dinner. But he was attentive before and then became aloof, should I meet up and tell her how I feel, or is it a dick move, I feel closure would be helpful. Would we be able to stay friends after?

Present situation: I dated a girl for a month and had sex with her. She then asked us to stop dating, but keeps calling and asking me to do stuff and acting like a girlfriend but won't kiss me anymore or say anything affectionate. What is going on with her?

Backstory: This girl and I work for the same company and see each other daily. About a month and a half ago she initiated contact through a friend of hers who asked if I was single. We talked and eventually went out. The girl was quick to start being affectionate and we made out a lot on our first date. We went on numerous dates that first week and eventually slept together. I grew somewhat attached and did things to move us toward a relationship (small gifts, notes, talk about being a couple). She said she didn't want to be a couple yet because of a recent breakup with boyfriend of 4 years that she still talks to (and who still wants to make it work). She also is confused about her work situation and even is considering moving and staying single for a while (told me all this on the same night, before having sex later on). A week later, she says we moved too quickly and wants to stop dating. I say ok and back off. She immediately starts engaging me again (calls, texts, work IM). Yesterday she asks me to lunch (we go), then also asks me to dinner and a movie. We go out and hang and have fun. At end of night (in my truck), she asks me to give her a hug. She hugs me deeply for like 40 seconds. I try to kiss her and she doesn't respond. Says good night and leaves truck. Later says the kiss thing was no problem and not to worry about it. Continues contacting me, calling to check in, asking what I'm doing, flirting and making sometimes sexy jokes about us. What is going on? Is this going anywhere? Am I getting "friend-zoned" or becoming a "substitute boyfriend" for her ex whose lives in another country? Should I keep being friendly or try to move on?