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Been dating this person casually for 2 years. After the first 9 months he said he loved me. I couldn't respond to it and simply kissed him. A month later I reciprocated and he said he felt the same. One month later he went out with another chick. This whole year I found that I was the one asking to see him and do things together. He broke up with me the week of his birthday because I asked if he was seeing someone else, then came back to me during the summer like old times never stopped. Then he once again started back pedaling. He told me when he really has strong feelings for someone he puts distance between them... I didn't get it. He claims I scare him because he can see himself with me forever but is scared he can be the man he's supposed to. (uuummm?) I ask him why dont we see each other more than a few days a month. He gets upset and says I always ask that question and when I do ask it he doesn't want to see me for a while. Which leads to weeks of no visits just phone conversation and text. Then when he's ready to see me and I say I enjoy his company wish it was more frequent he says here we go again and back to no visits. Now he says he needs a break to get his head right. I asked what are the rules and what does the break mean... he says no rules and he doesn't really know what he means by taking a break? I said,"do you want to just be friends?" He said no because he loves me and knows he has strong feelings for me. I told him I'm completely confused. We are on a break now I guess and now he answers the phone and responds to text faster and better than when we were not on a break. What's his deal? Any advise?

I met a guy on a dating site, he's 8 years older than me, which isn't a problem for me. He's been married once and has 2 kids. He's incredibly handsome, and has been very respectful to me. We've swapped photos, we text and have talked on the phone once. We have been chatting for about 2-3 weeks now and we've both mentioned how we'd love to meet. He has such a fantastic sense of humor, i love people who makes me laugh, not to mention we have the same sense of humor, like creepy jokes too soon.. lol. Though the only cons I can think of is he's one) an inch shorter than me 2) he lives in a different state. Now we're only about 4-4.5 hours away from each other... but that's still a good hop and skip. Granted my ex was 1.5hrs from me, at one point 2.5 and we made in 2 years. But I'm nervous about traveling that far to meet someone, I do own a gun and pepper spray lol but I don't think I'd need to use either.. I say id travel bc I've always wanted to go to a certain area of the state he lives in, I live in the middle of nowhere with nothing close by lol. Also, about his humor.. we had just swapped phone numbers close to Thanksgiving and I texted him, i got a reply, then a message from another number asking why I was texted her husband.. and they had 5 kids together... then I got a pic of a woman, a man and him.. saying they were his extended family and had to break me in right.. which I found hilarious after the finding our it was a joke. He said he had no idea until after the message was sent, they said his jaw dropped.. but anyways, he told them about me.. and a buddy at work as well he told me today he showed him a pic I had sent him this morning. Any advise on meeting, and experiences with this? Did it work for you?