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This is a question for those who have same-sex relationships, so gay, bi, pan, etc.
(I Posted an equivilant question for those in hetero relationships, look on my profile for that)

If you got cheated on, would it bother you slightly less if it was with someone of the opposite gender than the same one?
E. g.
For males, would it be less upsetting for your boyfriend/husband to cheat with a woman than a man?
For females, would it bother you less if your girlfriend/wife cheated with a man than a woman?

They have not met. was planning on introducing them next weekend. Now forget it. 😒

I was so caught off guard when he said that. It was not with a smirk or anything he seemed to think he was giving sage advice. The fact it is patronizing to me is the least of my concern -though it is no small concern.

Now I don’t know if he is just a closeted racist , sexist , bigot or ALL. None are ok. I can not think of any scenario where what he said Would be warranted.

I simply told him About my friend. He is helping me practice French bc I aim to visit distant relatives in France in the Spring. He is awesome I really enjoy his company and he is polite and kind and clever. Nothing in there says “Oof.. be careful you know how these people are”.

Also he is gay so if anyone thinks it’s jealousy.. He knows he is gay.

I can’t really see asking him

“ Why did you earn me to “ be careful” ?
🤔🤨

Bc he is black ; Gay; A guy; From a “ shit hole country” ( I don’t believe this clearly I’m illustrating what I suspect to be the type of attitude , that would compel a person to say what he said.)

My boyfriend has always been very considerate and kind. The worst I can say about him is his life has been un encumbered by any kind of major difficulty.

His parents are not Rich but his Great Aunt is a wealthy Philanthropist and she has always doted on him. She does not hide he is her favorite great nephew- They are close. She has always been very supportive of him.

But mostly this upbringing seems to make him relaxed and boyishly sweet -if sometimes ever so slightly spoiled or entitled. I don’t think this in itself should result in any kind of bigotry- unless you are already an asshole.😒

I am part Chinese part Russian he has never shown any issue with that. I’m Jewish on my fathers side. He on his Mothers. His parents are from Germany. He grew up in the states. I am rather close to his great Aunt.

Shocked. This is absolutely one thing I never thought would be an issue..