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Every time I'm upset my husband gets irritated at me. To the point, we end up fighting a lot. Here's an example:
My dog has stomach issues. My mother in law feeds him both people food and cat food. Our vet spoke to her the last time we had to go in for an emergency visit. He told her to stop immediately that she was making our dog very ill. So when she kept doing it I got angry. My husband confronted his mom and she claimed that the vet didn't say anything about either people food or cat food. So my husband comes back to me and says unless you have proof that the vet talked to my mom we have to give her the benefit of the doubt. For complete disclosure, my husband eventually believed me, but only after four emergency vet visits, a diagnosis of pancreatitis, and him telling her to stop and she continued to feed him incorrectly anyway. He does things like that all the time. If I get a date wrong, use the wrong word, cry because I'm angry or upset if someone else remembers differently he will start telling me to think logically. To not let my emotions get in the way of a rational discussion. I don't know how to get him to accept my right to express feelings. That I have the right to raise my voice sometimes.
I don't understand why he won't believe me or back me up. I he frustrated and angry when he dismissed everything I say because I made a mistake with a detail.

How do get him to see the big picture?

Am I just approaching him wrong?

He has me feeling like I really am losing my mind and I know I'm not.

Is there a way to fix this?

Am I expecting too much?

Is it wrong to want him and expect him to give my thoughts on a situation weight because I'm his wife?

I told him I want to be copilots of our destinies, and he said that he has a responsibility to stay impartial and make rational fair judgments. Is this gaslighting b. s. or does he have a point?

Thank you, everyone, for your help.

I am putting a poll up at my BFF's urging.

This is a safe space, but if you’d like to comment anonymously, be my guest.

I’ll explain a bit, what I mean by safe space. I mean respectfully express your opinion on body positivity. Not to just protect my sensitive ass self, but to protect others that may be reading this. Also because calling someone a fat pig or telling someone to eat a sandwich is flat out rude, and not necessary!

My opinion?

I am a fat girl, luckily I’ve been lucky enough to never get called fat to my face, mostly because I’m so shy and reserved in school most people think the only thing that’ll happen is I’ll tell the school, and they’ll get in trouble for being a mean asshat. But, in fact they are only partially right! Just because I’m shy doesn’t mean I won’t protect my feelings if you say rude things to my face. But.. if you say it behind my back, or when you think I didn’t hear that, I just won’t give you the time of day. But.. that’s besides the point.. a idiot in my gym class last school year said I was 300lbs, just so you know I’ve never weighed over 256, I weighed 256 that day, it was June my sophomore year.. I was hurt, I didn’t cry over it.
this person was the person to act like he’s nice to the shy kids, but then spread rumours and be a asshole when he thinks they aren’t looking or hearing. Anyways... I need to get to my opinion already!
I love body positivity, to a extent.. I do not believe being overweight at all is healthy, HEALTHY! I don’t think overweight or obese people are ugly, they aren’t! We aren’t! But.. I hate how people assume that because beauty standards are changing it’s ok to weigh what I did in June this year.. unless your 6’4’, it’s not!
Also, if you wanna know, I weight about 227 now, I know some people that aren’t my size don’t see that as a big achievement.. I do.. although mine wasn’t due to working out, I just kinda stopped eating as much (I say that in moderation)

Anyways, I just wanna see some opinions! Like do you agree with me?

POUT: Expressing annoyance or displeasure. It's a sulky kind of gesture, one that involves a facial expression more than words — in fact, a pout is often accompanied by a moody silence. The verb form of pout describes the action, and the noun form describes the facial expression.

DESPONDENT: Feeling or showing extreme discouragement, dejection, or depression