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I met a guy at a club and we hooked up. He was complimenting and teasing me, very sweet. I texted him and he wrote back carefully but stopped suddenly. Suddenly I ran into him totally unexpected on a party. He made up a girlfriend and that he therefore couldn’t text back. I told him I would like to be friends with benefits. He asked back three times if I wasn’t after a relationship and I denied which is the truth. I later got mad by his assumption and lie that I texted him he would be delusional to think I’d ever consider a relationship with him. We later spoke and he wanted me to join him. After making sure that I was watching him, I saw him chatting with a girl. I then totally lost it and slapped him for being disrespectful and left. He constantly texted me and was trying to quiet me. Since I was mad I insulted him very badly! He later called and begged me. When he picked me up he looked like a nervous wreck and when I kissed him he wouldn’t really return the kiss and held my hand in a limp way. One of his friends made a nasty remark I therefore got scared and left. He didn’t notice and was really upset and begged me to come to his place but I didn’t. One week later I felt bad for insulting him and went to his place to apologize in person. He was very cold and was hiding his feelings. He said he would have accepted my apology and that there was nothing for me to be feeling bad about but didn’t let me into his home and wanted me to leave almost aggressively. He didn’t allow me to kiss him or hold his hand. I texted him and explained myself. But he kept ignoring me. A week later he wrote me a drunk massage and asked me to talk to him but didn’t pick up the phone the next day. I gave him 4 weeks of space but still no improvement. My girlfriend talked to him and in the end she asked him to then end it with me if he doesn’t want to see me anymore, he ignored it again. I like him and don’t know what to do.

Freshman year I met this guy through one of my school clubs and we became close and we were also partners that summer when we went to a field trip with the club.
(I was with my almost 1 year boyfriend) and I didn't really think of him as anything more than a friend.
But as the vacation ended and I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend I noticed how nice and cool he was but still only as a friend.
Well a few months later sophomore year comes along and it's mid October and we went to some game and my two best friends knew I had some feelings for him now and they decided they should hook us up.
I refused to say anything to him so when I wasn't in the room they began asking if he liked anybody and then if he liked me.
According to them he was extremely flustered and said no.
After telling me this I even more refused to tell him anything in fear he'd bring it up. But my friends kept telling me he "totally likes me" and I just confronted him about it. Well he had a girlfriend at the time I confessed.
But the thing is he told me he liked me back but he didn't want to hurt his current girlfriend so I told him that we should just forget what we talked about. Until last week it had worker. but after our winter ball I realized how much I actually cared for him.
He's graduating this year and signed up for the navy. So right after graduation he'll be gone for quite a while. And I'll be stuck here wondering if I ever had a shot with him.

Today I told my closest friend that I still had feelings for him (because everybody believes I have 0% interest in him) and she helped me out and asked if he liked this one other girl he's been real nice to and he told her they were just fiends because they shared some club together but nothing more than that
So now I know he's not interested in anyone. But I'm still hesitant on confronting him because 1) I don't want to be rejected 2) don't want to ruin our great friendship
3) don't want to seem desperate

Ever since my boyfriend and I became officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I have been finding out stuff about him that had I'd known prior I would not of dated him. I can't stop thinking about the things either, they really bother me. I feel bad though because of the holidays just being last week and all.

So basically I found out that my boyfriend and his friends go to strip clubs a lot. I don't have a problem with strip clubs. My ex boyfriend would go to them on rare occasions for example with his work buddies to celebrate the end of tax season or someone's Birthday. But my current boyfriend and his friends go there for no special occasion. His one friend even hooked up with the striper. And stripers were at my boyfriends house. I saw a picture of them in their underwear with names on their asses including my boyfriends name. The night that happened my boyfriend stopped texting me at 11pm and responded back to me at 3:45 am that he fell asleep and things got wild at his house.

Another thing I think my boyfriend might be an alcoholic. He was sober for only 14/30 days of November. He also got blacked out drunk for his birthday. Which I understand it was his birthday, but his friends were saying his drunken behavior is how he always gets when he's drunk. He kept falling, broke dry wall, fell asleep numerous times while standing, and refused to go to bed. When we went out to dinner he drank 3 beers with our meal and I didn't even order a drink.

Earlier I posted a post about my friend being very drunk and going hystericsl (which she usually does when she drinks too much). She had a lot going in her past, very bad things which all that anger and sadness comes out when she's drunk. I took care of her last night, but our best friend, her roommate just let scream hysterically in the streets and stumble on the floor and never helped her or try to calm her down. I saw this when I was walking up to them (we had gotten separated). I am going to talk to my friend abut drinking too much later. But on the way home I texted our other best friend and my friend's roommate telling her how disappointed I am that she did not care much about our friend's well being. She was just interested in going to the club with some friends of friends who we just met. She messaged me back saying she thought we were going to the club. My drunk friend was clearly not able to go to the club she was screaming and lying on the floor and I just took her home. Everyone one of our group saw that. SO I uttered my disappointment in to her because she was suppose to care, and now I feel I can't trust her anymore because she would rather try to hook up with people and have fun even when her friend was in need.

Now that was my rant. Sorry. I am just very angry and disappointed in her. I am a little angry at my drunk friend, but I am going to try and help her deal with her drinking. It is just now I made some conflict between the three of us and we always see each other because we all live in the same building. I am a person who holds loyalty and trust to a high standard and felt like she broke that. She has done it before, but I made nothing of it because it wasn't worth making an issue out of it. But now I have made an issue out of something. Should I try to patch things up? But how? I don't really feel like it, but feel like I should. Am I making too much of a big deal out of this? We sort of hang out in the same circle so...