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I met a guy on Bumble. We had talked about 4-5 hours, texting and he invited me to dinner on Sunday telling me that he really finds me interesting. We kinda hit it off in our conversation and he seems like a nice person.


But I had a terrible past relationship that I had met online but never asked his intentions, and dated about 8 months only to find out that he was playing with me and using me only for sex. I was a little naive at that time since it was my very first time using online dating, and he seemed nice and we had a lot in common. And another relationship again i met online we dated 3 months and I didn't have sex until the mark of third month. He was all lovey-dovey including me in his life and everything. We had sex when he told me that he was ready for commitment. But I found out after first sex when he texted me that he was only trying me how long I was going to resist him. He even congratulated me cuz the other girls had sex with him after 1.5-2 weeks, while it took him 3.5 months for me. And basically he ended things in a fuck and dump situation. I did not ask him his intentions either at the first date because I thought I would come off as scary.

Now I want to ask to make sure that we are on the same page. Because I am really not looking for casual sex. I like to invest time into something real. I don't wanna be someone's trial and error to see how long I would take to open my legs. Should I ask him what his intentions are or is it useless to ask since he may simply lie to me to have sex?