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Is that strange for a guy? After 3 weeks of dating he sat me down and told me everything he disliked about me. Then he asked me to tell him what I disliked about him.

For me, they were little things... like that he didn't respond to text messages or he hated coffee, fruits, vegetables etc.

For him, they were personality points... He said he didn't understand my sense of humor (even though he had been laughing at my jokes for weeks?), that he didn't like when I said I miss you (because that meant the time he spent with me was inadequate) and he didn't like how sometimes when I got really excited or when I really wanted something I'd pretend to act like a kid.

I walked out of the room wondering how he ever liked me... he named other personality traits. It's like he didn't want me to be me... Then as time went by I noticed things like "I don't like when girls wear makeup," "I don't like when girls wear earrings," and "I like when girls wear [this] kind of clothing" and "I don't like perfume unless it smells like [this]".

I feel like there are some major red flags there. It's like he doesn't like anything I do. After 3 weeks of dating he also said he expects me to help out around his apartment... like if he makes me dinner then he expects me to put the dishes in the dishwasher. Seemed strange for not having dated that long. He also said he doesn't believe in honeymoon periods and for him what you see is what you get and if I don't like him now then I won't ever.

A week later he bought me flowers, a necklace and two weeks later he invited me to go home and meet his parents.

Something isn't sitting right with me with this guy. He also never talks about himself. He's super closed off emotionally.

The ex and I broke up ages ago. A few months ago he tried to hit me up for sex. I nicely turned him down. He's been acting like an awkward, avoidant weirdo any time we see each other at mutual friends' things despite my attempts to remain friendly (tried to leave the impression that I didn't think he was a jerk for bringing it up). Lots of hot/cold. Sometimes he'll greet me, all friendly, and other times it's like I bite, so he avoids. I'm kind of tired of this awkward bs floating around at parties. He'll be around me, but just will not say much of anything to me. But he'll say goodbye. It's just strange. I do my best to enjoy myself at these things, but it's kinda womp womp. :/

No idea if he still likes me or feels guilty for breaking up, but for god's sake, it's been 2.5 years. I thought we'd gotten past that "awkward seeing your ex for the first time" bit almost a year ago. I'm not trying to be BFFs, but it would be nice if he would just to act normal when we do see each other at parties. Any time I find out he's going to be there, it's kinda blegh.

I've been told by several guy friends just to talk to him and ask wtf is going on just to get things cleared up.

Tried to "hang out" in order to talk about it face to face but got a lot of runaround.

Don't really want to text because it's too easy to evade and ignore.

I guess I could try calling, but calls are easy to ignore and I don't care for addressing things like this via the phone.

Or should I just say forget it and just let this crap continue and do my best to ignore it?