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When my mom was 6 months pregnant with me, my dad left her for another woman and moved to Spain to start a new life with his new lover.

My mom raised me and my older sister alone and was always honest with us that our dad had moved to a different country. When I was about 10 my mom put me on the phone to speak with a man who said he was a friend of my moms and he was coming to visit me at my birthday party that weekend. This 'friend' however never showed up and I didn't speak to him again.

I had no idea who my dad was or where he was until I was about 13. Jealous of my friends relationships with their fathers I started asking my mom questions and got her to tell me who my dad was. She also told me he was serving 7 years in jail for armed robbery which he was arrested for when he returned to the country 3 years before. (This is why he relocated to Spain to avoid arrest).

Unfortunately my mom became sick and died of pneumonia a year later when I was 14 so me and my sister went into foster care until we were 18. As far as I was concerned during this time I had no father, he meant nothing to me and he had never spent one second in my life. I knew he existed but I wanted nothing to do with him. I then went through a rebellious patch taking drugs, getting in trouble with the police and isolating myself from other people as I felt incredibly depressed. Luckily I met my future fiancé who changed my outlook on life and set me back on course.

Finally at the age of 19 I decided to make the effort to reach out to my father. Since he had been out of jail for 2 years I asked why he has not contacted me or my sister while in care during that time and he said it's because he never had our numbers. When I asked why he didn't do more as a father he blamed it on his 15 year alcohol addiction. I am annoyed that he won't apologise or take any responsibility and keeps on feeding us excuses. Anyway, since we have started speaking on Facebook he has asked to meet. Should I?

Soooo i was arguing with my friends and got bitched at pretty hard, my argument was that if you are a good knowledgeable person and you're friends with a person that is in a bad situation, such as a drug addiction or an abusive relationship that you should be trying to foster that person, to lead them into living a better life, what do you think?

So my on and off ex girlfriend of 3 years texted me recently saying that she wants to see me after we broke up. We broke up about 2 months ago because she stopped texting me for about a week and she cheated on me. We have both kept in contact now and then, but this only led to arguments, so I stopped replying for a few weeks.

My ex has her fair share of issues, like dealing with addictions, family issues, etc. I've always stood by her side and tried to support her however I could. She has been supportive of me over the years, helping me get through some of my own issues, and she was really sweet and affectionate until recently in our relationship, she suddenly showed no interest in me anymore.

We've broken twice, the first time we broke up, it was because she said I wasn't affectionate or caring, and we argued constantly. As soon as we broke up, she started dating someone else immediately. I was devastated, but I spent a year trying to win her back, and it became obvious that she strung along for a whole year, and when their relationship ended, we got back together.

The second time we broke up was 2 months ago, she was diagnosed with boderline personality disorder (BPD), and I know that a lot of her actions stem from it. She has a lot of self-destructive tendencies, and lately she's making some bad decisions. I've tried putting up with this, and tried to get her help and support her in any way that I can, but she didn't listen until recently, and she promised that she would get help.

Now I'm hesitant to whether I want to get pulled back into this relationship. I'm afraid she will try to string me along again, and I can't shake the feeling that she's just using me. I care so much about her, but I'm afraid that she will just do this again, because this sort of thing has happened more than once. I feel like an idiot for still having feelings for her, but I need to know if there's any chance that she truly cares about me?