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Does he want me to have his babies? He says that:
- He wants to start a family with me.
- Has talked about marriage and moving over to my country even.
- Discussed about who will raise kids and how we would raise them.
- Wants my parents' approval.

I didn't bring it up. He did. I'm not even ready for marriage or kids 😭😭😭 Why do military guys want to get married so young?

Before we married I had a career he asked me to quit to start a family I never saw myself as the house wife type but anything to make him happy right? I cook, clean, handle the books, organize his files and at times when asked create his presentations but to him I do nothing.
He wakes up angryvgoes to sleep angry he will bang & break things curse at me and get angry if he feels I'm speaking to him as a child because this is his house he pays everything, but this house was left to us by family and furnished by me & my parents not that it matters I wouldn't remind him of it
At times he forgets to pay bills & keep appointments I tired of being yelled at for reminding so kept quiet he spent all the money we had no food fell behind on bills I had to borrow from my father which he also became angry about.
He thinks I discuss him to people in my personal life not realizing I'm too embarrassed his friends only know because there was an incident before a party he bruised my eye while his friend sat and watched he felt bad became a puppy again and convinced me to put on make up and go because it was for work.
I find myself wishing he would have an deadly accident I would get nothing out of it I have life insurance but he refuses to get some of his own because he wouldn't want me "living well with another man" if he died I don't have desires to be with another man I just think if he died I would only remember the good & be free of him.
I ask to see counselors he refuses I drew up divorce papers & I never saw him so hurt, I mentioned it again today because I love him but this is wrong & he was angry accused me of only wanting him for his money, I reminded him I made more than him when I worked & come from money he does not and he reminded me I had been out of work so long its irrelevant and people would talk.
We have these arguments frequently I think he notices when I work up the nerve to leave because then he is sweet I love him but I'm so miserable is that possible?

My boyfriend and I are both latinos but I'm a bit more westernized than him. We are going to get married in the near future.

A couple things that we differ:
- He likes the child to be named after the parents while I liked either creative or English names (no Spanish names as first names and it can't be our names)
- He still believes in old school (but doesn't limit himself into that) while I'm a creative punishments and natural consequences believer
- Claims he will be protective if we had a girl and will teach her to wait till marriage meanwhile I would be happy if my child was in a healthy relationship (not necessarily marriage) and have an discussion with him/her about protective sex and the consequences... same treatment, no double standard

So far the first topic yesterday was about the name selection. We agreed that if it's a boy, he will have an English name and he will share his name in his midde name. The others, it wasn't discussed too much and no middle ground has been established yet.