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I have a guy that I'm close friends with, his parents are pretty successful money wise and his cousin recently gave him a job as a customer service representative. I live with my dad who is working, but it isn't enough. I lost my job 5 months ago and I could never find one so I enrolled in food stamps. Since I developed an infection in one of my teeth I used my benefits to pull it out. He told me I am selfish, self-centered, and a burden to society for using my benefits to get my tooth pulled, I had a really bad infection in my mouth and it was extremely painful to the point where I'd wake up crying. He says I should of waited until I got a job and worked for a few months before getting it pulled so that I wouldn't use my government benefits. I know that he has a point but I'm actually trying really hard to start working and he already had family to hook him up with a job and he still lives with his parents. He made fun of how swelled up my face was when I had the infection which already made me feel like crap

I consider myself as not judgmental at all. I mean, I still have some weak moments but overall I try not to judge people because no matter how they look, how they act, what they've done, you don't know what is in their mind and what burden they are carrying. Also you never know what life would offer you and when you'are going to be in a similar situation. You just never know.
I am sharing all of this because I a lot of people around me are so judgmental. I have a few friends that are like me but the rest of them judge. I don't say they are bad people, not at all but sometimes it bothers me when they comment on someone's look or behavior. It feels just like a negative energy to me. And I almost always reply smth like: "So, why do you care?", "I think there's nothing wrong with that person", or even the opposite " I like that dress and I don't think it's ugly like you do." Although I have no energy anymore to response to commnets like this especially if my boyfriend or my mother says it.. or explain why it is not OK to be judgy. It is draining and I think it doesn't help at all. I am also wondering what is the benefit of it? To feel better? I don't think judging people makes you feel better.