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I was about to leave for bootcamp in like 2 days and I had been holding back my feelings for him for quite some time. I finally decided that I didn't want to leave before telling him how I truly feel. I knew there was a chance that he didn't feel the same way, but that's a risk I was willing to take. I was afraid he would disappear, because that's all I've ever known. He didn't say it back and he actually said he was glad that I told him. I was worried it would change our relationship, but it didn't. Not in the least. We're still the same as we've always been. Keep in mind, we aren't actually dating. We don't have a label in our relationship, but we both care for each other very deeply. He just says he's not ready to be in love again or be in a relationship again yet. He says he doesn't think about his feelings and things like that. That makes no sense to me. I'm big into astrology and I'm a Scorpio. Yes, I know, Scorpios are notorious for being highly emotional and it's true. We are. I get jealous when he texts his girl friends all the time and he knows this. He said it bothers him a little bit, but not much. He understands that I have a jealous nature. We became friends in April of 2014 and at first I didn't like him in a romantic way, but we started hanging out a lot as friends and kinda became inseparable and just got super close. I absolutely fell in love with his personality. He's a Leo. He's goofy, extroverted and he's a big kid at heart. Which I love, because I'm introverted and I take things too seriously. When I stay the night with him he holds me and rubs my hair until I fall asleep. Periodically he will squeeze me tighter and kiss my forehead while he holds me. These feel like things he does out of love. I FEEL like he loves me, but he just won't admit it. I could be wrong though. I said the L word a few times in my letters from bootcamp, but I never say it in person because I don't want to make him feel pressured or uncomfortable. So what do y'all think?

Could use some advice…some background: I have been friends with benefits with a guy for 1.5 years now and we actually started dating about 4 months ago. It was about a month ago he started talking about us living together and wanting a long-term, exclusive relationship with me and I agreed. We are now bf/gf. However, over the course of our time together, we only typically see each other once or twice a month (with kids and work, it can be a challenge). Well, a couple weeks ago we spent the night together and talked more about us being exclusive and he told me he had “fallen for me” but was still too scared to use the “L” word. I told him I loved him. But now it feels like he is ignoring me or pulling back. He has barely contacted me, hasn’t asked to see me since, and his text responses are very short, like he's blowing me off. I know he has a lot of stuff going on in his life right now that is stressing him out (money, trying to get a promotion at work and relocate, etc.) but I feel like he is losing interest now that he “locked me down” and knows how I feel. Although he hasn’t given me any verbal reason to think this. I don’t want to doubt him and I feel like I should just act like everything is fine and until he tells me otherwise. I’ve already been in trouble for assuming things in the past about him, and I want to trust in what he has told me. I want to just act like I normally would by texting him (which really ends up only being once or twice a week) and making plans…but then everything I read about a guy pulling away says to let him and don’t contact him at all, to allow him that space and he will come snapping back at some point. Obviously I can’t do both. At this point I feel like I'm being played because his actions and words aren't matching up. I don't know what to do or how to act anymore.