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I have a new man, well relatively new. We've been a couple since January, and I'm nervous. My last relationship was on and off for three years, and he was not nice. My man knows that I was in a rough place with the old guy, and he really helped me get through it. I honestly didn't even want to look at men, for two or three months.

Now I'm so happy and I feel great with my SO, but last month he said the "I love you" and I said it back, and I know I meant it. I can honestly say that he has changed my perspective of love and I definitely feel it with him, but I worry that he doesn't actually feel it back.

I know that I'm just having a hard time with trust and confidence, but are we moving too fast? My ex was obsessive, possessive, and manipulative, so being with a guy as nice and chill as my boyfriend is a weird wake up.

The other thing is we haven't gone all the way, I'm comfortable with it, but I think he's intimidated because he sees me as experienced and himself as naive, but he's already proven that he's going to be the best intimate partner I've ever had! I don't think he gets that it isn't about the physical act so much as its about the mental state and communication. But am I too eager? Is that too soon?

I'm so used to the college atmosphere that it doesn't phase me now that I'm in a committed relationship again.

My boyfriend and I talked tonight and he was talking about his past, mainly about a girl he met when he traveled to Israel. He talked to me about how he wanted her and the reason why he was going for her, and he kept flirting with her and she liked him as well. Then he goes on describing about how they made out aggressively, and how he grabbed her boobs and ass, and how it was the best time of his life. He continued talking to me about how they met up for lunch when she came to USA for vacation. And how he felt bad because she's in love with him And didn't take the time to spend time with her. As I responded, of course you could hear sadness in my voice and I was keeping my composure because I didn't think any girl would want to hear that from a guy. He then got mad and said I'm possessive and how I was giving attitude and that I have no interest hearing about his past. After 5 mins of laying there, I answered "I'm not possessive and I'm not giving you attitude, I love hearing about your past and getting know more about you. It makes me feel uncomfortable when you talk to me about in details on how you aggressively made out with someone and which body parts you touched" and he didn't say anything else but after asking him if he heard what I said 5 mins after he said he doesn't know what to say and wants to go to bed. And he did.

is it wrong for me to say what I said to him? Or should I even have to be the one to apologize.