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My wife is not unattractive. However, I crave conversation and emotional intensity in a relationship. In spite of her physical attractiveness, I am bored trying to converse with her. For many years we had no meaningful conversation at all. I am well educated professor and she has an associates degree. Should I divorce her and find a more conversant spouse or try to stick it out. I am currently not in love with her and told her this. The one thing I like is that I am familiar with her and she helps raise the kids. We had some marriage counseling.

1. A great looking guy with okay personality. Still nice though but not as relatable. Confident. You guys still have fun times but he doesn't seem to make you laugh and hear you out as much

2. An average looking guy with a great personality that is super nice and is relatable and is willing to hear your problems and be there for you when you need him? But is a bit insecure about himself due to his lack of physical attractiveness

I did not expect to meet a girl through the app Tinder.

I actually don't like the app very much since it is based solely on physical attractiveness. but that is besides the point.

I got to chat with an awesome girl on there got her number. and i am wondering what time of the day is best to call and set up a first date?
Also, what kind of ideas do you have in regards to date ideas? and date conversation topics. i don't know much about her but i am very curious.

-Cheers

The problem with the profile I found is she is located right at 150 miles away. She list 75 miles as the farthest away she wants to be contacted from. We match in personality, lifestyle, and are even close to each other in terms of physical attractiveness (in what is a pretty general sense I can't account for personal preferences.) I have dated online for years and never found this close of a match profile wise.

Should I try to contact her? Also I can't contact her with my profile, without changing my location. And if so should I immediately point out that I am a little farther away than expected (this is the way I am leaning because I don't like the idea of trying to start a relationship with anything that can be considered deceptive.) Or try to build a rapport first and then tell her. Hoping that between the initial contact and the first 3-4 real conversations she doesn't ask where I'm from. Or how I like living in whatever city I put on the profile to get inside the 75 mile range. I truly understand the 75 mile range, I used to have the same restriction. However I live in a small town and realized I am on online dating because the person I am looking for isn't going to be two blocks over. Which is why I even consider this as an excusable thing to do. We are obviously on this site because we aren't finding what we are looking for where we are.

I understand long distance isn't good unless the plan is to become short distance within a time frame we each feel comfortable dealing with. This I feel if handled with communication, and honesty won't be a problem.

Will someone please help me figure out if contacting her is wrong to do? Or if any girls out there would feel deceived or immediately turned off by this? And potential good match be danged. I do not want to disregard the information on her profile, but I do not want to miss with someone it seems I match so well with and really aren't that much farther from. Thank you in advance.

Ladies would you prefer a man with exceptional physical attractiveness or a man with less physical attractiveness, but listens to what you have to say,"how was your day? Wanna talk about it?", honesty and loyalty, constantly expresses his feelings for you one way or another ( to some could be suffocating who knows everyone's opinion's different), not ashamed of you and willing to express it anytime anywhere, willing and preferring to talk about a problem to solve reasonably instead of dropping it, values your opinion and input, is willing to compromise, will do what you ask when you ask (within reason), and in the bedroom (if your engaged in said activities fine if your not, respecting everyone's privacy and wishes) is more than willing to put your needs before his own, and willing to talk to you about what you really want or if you like meaningful conversation and not just act like he knows what he's doing, and is especially prone to asking for pointers and personal preferences or if there's something "you" wanna try (not neccesarily for inexperience, but to suit your own personal needs and wants and you not feel embarrassed) not just in the bedroom but ask if you need anything anytime. sorry for the innapropriate bedroom talk if it offends anyone. So which is it?