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Or still humans that can make majors mistakes but learn from it? I've read both version of the cheated on and the cheater.

The one that got cheated:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/423066-i-caught-my-fiancee-cheating-but-she-doesn-t-know

The cheating fiancee:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/431581-i-threw-away-my-future

On another post, she admits that she was the girl in his story. Much later on, the cheatee updates that his ex fiancee tried to kill herself and is in a psych ward. A couple years later, the girl is engaged to someone else (she doesn't cheat this time) but she get violent with the next fiance and is back to being single again.

These are the opinions of several anthropologist and sociologist on human behavior.

Expert 1
Christopher Ryan, Ph. D. and author of Sex at Dawn: How we Mate, Why we Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships adamantly tells Hopes & Fears that no, humans did not evolve to be a sexually monogamous species, which is evidenced by the fact that we rarely only have one sexual partner for our entire life. He says that having one partner at a time isn't monogamy, it actually fits into the category of serial polygyny.

Expert 2
Elisabeth Sheff, Ph. D. and author of The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families says that because monogamy takes so many social structures to exist, it can't really be naturally occurring and inherent, like blinking, breathing, or wanting to speak to our children. She says "it seems more natural for humans to want a personal harem, so each of us get to enjoy sexual variety, but insist on sexual exclusivity for our lovers, so we don't have to deal with jealousy."

Expert 3
David P. Brash, a professor at the University of Washington and author of several books on the topics of sex, evolution, and infidelity, says that we aren't naturally inclined towards monogamy and that monogamy itself is a recent societal creation. Men and women are both inclined to seek multiple sexual partners for a variety of biological reasons.

Expert 4
Dossie Easton, a psychotherapist and relationship counselor, told Hopes & Fears the she believes a lot of institutions profit by controlling the population towards monogamy by instilling lots of guilt and shame. At the end of the day, though, Easton says people are going to do what they want. She says, "I know from experience that many people learn to create the relationship and sexual lifestyles that they desire, and find a way to fit themselves into the culture while they're at it."

[There are more out there but i have no more space for words]