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I met this guy at a friend's party almost 7 years ago. Immediately we were very good friends, we get each others' humor, we enjoy the same thing, and would often just end up in the same place at the same time long before people were checking in on Facebook just because we enjoy the same kind of places. I liked him right away, but he had a girlfriend at the time, and they broke up a few months later, after we had established a good friendship. We would go to breakfast, lunch, and even a movie sometimes, but it never quite felt like a date. I also never told him how I felt although I was starting to feel hopelessly into him because it just never felt like the right time. He was always down to spend time with me and would work it into his crazy schedule going to school and working midnights, and when we were in the same room we were always together. After a year of this, neither of us had made any initiative to make it more than it was, so I decided we were just friends, and eventually stopped saying no to the guy who was clearly in love with me and one of my best friends as well. The other guy and I stopped running into each other as much and making plans to. About a year into our relationship, we ran into him at a beer tasting, and I immediatly remembered the feeling I have for him. I still felt like he was my first choice with them both there in the same room, and was otherwise really happy with my guy, so I stopped keeping up the other friendship because I felt it was unfair to my boyfriend to keep someone around that I'm always going to be attracted to.
5 and a half years later... my boyfriend and I decided to part ways and just be friends, and I stil can't stop thinking about the other guy. We've been chatting on Facebook, and exchanged numbers again, but he's applied for a bunch of jobs out of state and is planning to move as soon as he gets one, or at the end of the year. I know I will see him this coming Saturday.. do I just tell him?

My boyfriend and I started dating last summer. My bff was not too excited about us, so we kept us a secret, because we only had one week together before he moved six hours away. I thought it wasn't going to last. But we stayed in touch, and after six months we started to daydream about the future. I was moving to his city in the fall. The secret relationship was hard for us though, and when he came home two weeks ago we started dating in public, as the world believed we just met. My bff was cool with it. Problem is, he broke up with me last night. He said keeping him a secret had made him feel like a low prioroty, and accused me of putting my bff before him, since I wouldn't tell her. How do you tell someone after six months you've had a boyfriend? Our friendship would be over, but he doesen't understand this. He said it had killed almost all the feelings he had for me, at least made them a lot weaker than it was last summer, when he was very much in love with me.

Last week, we spent the night at our second house, ate some delicious food, talked, lied in the sun, listened to music and had a great time. He mentioned this when he broke up and said he was surprised over how good it was. It was like we had no problems at all, it was like last summer.

My question is, are we completely over? He said he had been thinking about this the last couple of months, and that he had really, really tried, and he thought I was a great girl and he wanted to be with me, but his feelings were chased away by my wish to keep us a secret, to not hurting my bff (I'm not really a bad friend, it is another story, not important to this). He said he has feelings for me, but they were weak, but I think about our little trip and what wonderful time we had. I think there is still something there. He says there is nothing wrong with who I am, the problem is what is around us. How can anyone throw away 11 months in two weeks? I want him to fall in love with me again. Is it even possible