Search Results: physical attractiveness

I'm kinda a slow approacher when it comes to girls mostly because I'm on a campus and its a lot easier to talk to someone after I've made eye contact a few times and kinda gauged their interest and my interest as well. Normally this is fine for me but recently I've gotten into a situation. I was making a lot of flirty eye contact with one girl but then my ex came back and asked me on a date. We've been back and forth a few times and it had been a whole year. I tried to patch things up with her it but it didn't work. Well I guess I upset the other girl (or at least I thought I did) so I decided to move on. Soon after a different girl got my attention and we started eye flirting but then the original girl came back. I figured why not just meet them both and see how things go until I noticed they were friends and not casual acquaintances but best friends. They're together a lot and I can't believe I didn't notice before. Unfortunately I accidentally make eye contact with both of them now but I've been trying not to because I don't want to mess up their friendship. And they're both equally gorgeous just in different ways and now I'm not sure what to do. Should I just continue to try and move on from both. I'm afraid if I try to date either one I'll come off as a player which is far from the truth. But I can tell through their facial expressions that me avoiding the situation is making both of them upset and its killing me on the inside. I'm actually far from a player and put a lot of thought into who I want to date not just physical attractiveness. Its been over a year since I've dated anyone since my ex mostly because I'm kinda picky and these two were the first girls I've been very interested in since then. I'm also fairly comfortable being single so I dint really feel a lot of pressure to date anyone. If it helps girl one seems smart she's always in the library. she also seems really calm and chill like me. Girl 2 seems to be more energetic and silly but still smart also like me. I left out physical appearance because it honestly isn't going to affect this decision.

I know a lot of people believe the opposite that men are more visual gender and I used to be one of them . Hovewer scientfc evidance indicate that women are more shallow gender .

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Another study

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Short summary and conclusion

they studied 163 undergrad students, 19 years old on average.

they gave them questionnaires and asked how much they care about attractiveness between one (not at all) to 9 (extremely)... Men said 8, women said 7 (less than men).

they did 2 hour speed dating events and after all was said and done, they could indicate whether they were interested in meeting again and were free to set a date.

during the following month they would get extensive followup questionnaires to see how their relationships developed, both for speed dating matches and other people they may have met outside of speed dating.

physical attractiveness predicted relationship initiation quite well. even more so for women (correlation .46) than for men (.43)

Also looks predicted quite well whether they would initiate sex (.33 for women vs .21 for men), whether they would think having sex was a good idea ( .42 for women vs .27 for men), their commitment to pursuing/maintaining a relationship (.45 for women vs .28 for men) and to a lesser extent whether they would enjoy the date (.22 women, .11 men)

NOTE: I'm referring to both genders in this question, and I'm only talking about weight (not necessarily physical attractiveness although I know they're correlated)

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In today's America, when it comes to (by the eye test) very overweight people job searching, and businesses looking to hire employees, in this economy resulting in the largest pool of candidates per position in the history of this country, this is a fitting question to ask.

Why? Because companies can be extremely picky when it comes to who they hire due to the basic concept of supply and demand in today's job market.

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In short, across all non-modeling jobs in the USA as a whole, how much of a bias, if any, do you believe there will be against a company coming across a well-spoken, well-dressed, very qualified,

yet (by the eye test) very overweight,

candidate?

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