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My husband and I took a trip to our home town a few months ago. While we were there, my ex told me that his girlfriend had basically cheated on him, and that he wanted to get back at her with me.

At, the time, my husband and I were having some serious problems and at a risk of splitting up. We still are, but back then I'd all but given up hope at us working out and wasn't trying.

My ex knows I'm not the cheating type. I told him that if I ever did, I'd have to be really pissed and getting ready to leave anyway so that my husband would never find out.

For whatever reason, my ex told his girlfriend about the conversation that we'd had 3 months ago, and just 2 nights ago she sent me a very nasty FB message. I'm not the one who asked him to cheat!

I get texts alerts from FB, and when my husband and roommate saw my reaction, they were really concerned. I went into the bedroom to get on my computer to deal with it, then came back to the den to tell them what was going on.

My husband has horrible communication skills, which is the main cause of our marital problems; I'm very open with my husband and I don't hide things from him. Certain things I don't share unless he asks, and this was one of those topics.

He took the information is his usual fashion: smile and nod. He's OK with just about anything I do as long as I'm loyal and faithful; as long as I don't leave him and don't cheat.

He went to bed right after the conversation, and I went back to my video game. 5 minutes later he came back out and asked me "If you do ever cheat, will you tell me about it so that I can get mine?"

OK I understand the need for revenge, and at least he didn't think of leaving me, but REALLY?

Instead of worrying about dealing with the pain of that kind of betrayal like a normal person, his first thoughts are of screwing another chick?

Now I'm wondering if he isn't thinking of cheating himself!