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I started dating this guy recently. We've kissed and been on a date and both really like each other.

This is a bit about him: He's a total geek. He has a few close friends but other than that, he doesn't like any other people in his school. So I guess he's kind of antisocial (except when it comes to his friends). He has very little experience with girls and dating. He easily tells me his weak points (eg, when we're talking about video games, if he cried at some point during the game he tells me) and he says he's very comfortable around me. Also he told me that he has social anxiety disorder. He's in concert band with me so I see him at least once a week.

This is my dating past: I'm also pretty inexperienced with dating, but not as much as he is. I've had one boyfriend before. We didn't get to hang out very often and we didn't text or talk on the phone or anything very often either. When we did communicate electronically, it was because he was horny. Then for two weeks he didn’t even bother to text me once (although I never talked to him either) and then we broke up.

This is my current problem: This new guy hardly ever texts me first. When I do text him, he usually replies straight away which is nice. According to what I’ve read (psychology articles, Cosmopolitan articles, stuff on the Internet, etc) I’m supposed to make him miss me and want me by waiting for him to text me first. But the last time I waited (when I was waiting for my ex, as I said above) it ended badly. So what should I do? I want to text him and it’s not like I’d smother him or anything. I usually start a text conversation with this guy about 3-4 times a week (and we’re pretty much going out). Still it would be nice if he talked to me first more often. Will he lose interest if I always text first? But if I wait and never text first, I’m afraid he’s just not going to bother texting me and lose interest that way.

What should I do? What are your personal experiences with this kind of stuff? Should I do what Cosmo tells me? xD;; What if he never texts me? Thanks!