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I believe that there is a certain behavior necessary in order to truly be a boyfriend (or girlfriend). Now, before some defensive men rush in here huffing and puffing about how some women don't know how to be a girlfriend, that's for an entirely different post. Please do not come here and derail this post because you can't help but be slightly self-absorbed and refer to your own frustrations.

I may be slightly biased because I am a damn good girlfriend who has consistently gone out of my way to be good to my man; honor him on special days, strategically give him delightful memories, and cater to his every sense. In addition, I am loyal to a fault and I intensely defend his honor in any way necessary. Now, I'm not trying to toot my own horn, but I am well aware *based on observation and male experience* that most females are not willing to go to the extreme lengths I go to in my relationship. So, it's very frustrating when he doesn't quite return the gesture. No, this doesn't discredit his potential as a good human being. No, it doesn't mean he's some horrible boyfriend who should be bashed. No, this doesn't negate from all of the good things he has done. This just means that he innocently believes mediocre behavior is acceptable. He thinks that his ordinary, average, unremarkable, uninspirational, forgettable, amateurish behavior as a boyfriend is tolerable.

Now, am I trying to change him? No...and yes. No, I'm not trying to change his personality. Yes, I'm trying to help him grow and develop so he can possess the skill to be a divine boyfriend. Is that really so wrong? If we all just had the stubborn idea that we don't need to change, we would stay immature and never grow. I currently feel that he doesn't know how to be a boyfriend because he habitually lacks the most basic, courteous, common sense behavior that a boyfriend should act on towards a woman who treats him so right.

Your thoughts? What are your personal experiences relating towards this?

Hi,

I am trying to if there is some correlation with saying I love you too fast.

Ex. Julie and her boyfriend went out for 3 months, then say I love you. They broke up 2 months later.

John and his girlfriend went out for a year, then said I love you. They broke up a year later.

I have told my boyfriend a year in the relationship, but he still hasn't said it back. We are now 4 years in. I do wish he would say it, but he has had many issues before with girls so I am not pressuring him. I am happy with him so I can wait for it ;)

And, this is the longest relationship I have been in. So, I think there may possibly be a correlation.

Anyway, enough about me! What about you? I am really curious what the average time is =)

Also, if you want to get into this topic, answer this to for me! Thanks!

1)Length it took

2)Would you wait as long as me? or longer?

3)Do you see a correlation?

How long would it take you to be comfortable enough in a relationship to decide to move-in together? Realizing all relationships are different, what would be your needed (average) length of time to feel secure enough in your relationship to take that next step? Feel free to post explanations/stories to explain your views.