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I want to be as specific as possible so you can get the full picture of my situation.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months exactly. We see eachother every day. We spend nearly every second of our free time together except when... It's time to go to bed. He tells me he loves me. I want to believe he does. But he has only stayed the night with me twice. Often, most of the time more than once a week, he will even book an extravagant, expensive hotel room... just hang out with me there, sex, hang out some more, drink etc , then leave. Sometimes he is so drunk he can barely walk and he would still rather go home! It is very important for a man to sleep with me, to hold me, make me feel safe, secure and comfortable... I don't understand how a man can be comfortable having sex with me, going down on me etc but not sleeping me. It's very hurtful, and I feel like it's something about me. Like, maybe he doesn't want to be attached to me. Like a psychological issue where he may see this as a larger commitment. Or maybe he is scared it will become a habit. I DON'T KNOW. I am an attractive, slender, 21 year old woman... I can't see why he wouldn't want to sleep with me. Every morning when I wake up I just roll my eyes into the back of my head like... what the hell am I doing? I have never thought that this would ever be any sort of issue.
I have confronted him many times. Told him that this isn't going to work if this carries on. I have told him that it is important to me. It's just like he doesn't care. I've never even been inside or outside of his apartment. But I know he doesn't have a girlfriend bc he's ALWAYS with me.

When I told him last night that I needed an answer right then and there why he won't sleep with me, he said, "The last girl that I slept with was my ex of 7 years"... Which ended about 5 years. (he is 28) I DO KNOW for a FACT that this is a LIE bc he told me about another realationship that he was in for one year and they lived together after 6 months. I confronted him on the lie... he stuck by his lie saying that I had gotten confused (HA I had not) and I didn't say another word bc I didn't want to argue. He doesn't pee the bed, doesn't pass gas while sleeping... so it can't be that. he's not a snorer... Does any one have any input on why this is? And dont say it might be a clingy booty call bc its not like that. I just need to know if I should just leave. What's the deal here guys, really?

When my boyfriend and I started officially dating, I made my boundaries for our relationship clear: I will not accept being called names, I will not accept being lied to, and I will not accept cheating. He said that he understood and had the same boundaries as me. Great! Or not...

I have known him for a long time and we've been friends for years. Because of this we share a big group of friends. One of the girls we hang out with used to be his fuck buddy/booty call. Whatever, but I told him I wasn't comfortable with the two of them hanging out alone any more considering their history. Because they were friends with benefits, even casual hang outs for them would be very similar to their old "dates." He said okay. Anyway, yesterday I found out that he's actually been hanging out with that girl whenever he told me he had been golfing with his brother. I told him that I was leaving and that I would be moving out of our apartment at the end of the lease (thank god it's at the end of the month) instead of renewing.
1) he lied to me: aka crossed boundary number one
2) he used that lie to cover for hanging out with his ex-fuck buddy who he had agreed not to see one on one any more (at her house no less).

He is now accusing me of being unreasonable and saying that I'm unfair because my "boundaries" were really an ultimatum. I think this is BS. I told him I wouldn't put up with it if he crossed my boundaries. He crossed them, the consequence is that he loses me. He said that it's an ultimatum because it's like he has to do what I say (not lie or hang out with her), or else i dump him.

Is that an ultimatum?

just background info: we're both 26, we've been together for 2 years, we live together.

I don't know if he hooked up with her/had sex with her or anything, but I don't even care anymore. He lied to me and betrayed me. I'm gone either way, but do you think this is just setting healthy boundaries or was I issuing an ultimatum?