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Well, in previous questions, I wondered if he was really into me or not.

Anyway, the proverbial shoe had finally dropped where the exwife signed the papers, has a new man and admitted it to him. That fateful "Thursday" (May 25) as I will call it, was the real last time when anything was ever the same.

He was devastated, heart ripped out and the whole 9 yards. I decided (maybe against better judgement) to see it through at least in the way of a friend. He severed virtually all contact with me due to this turn of events. I was devasted but never let him know at the time.

He would text randomly, "I am so f****d up I just want to crawl in a hole". I wouldn't really respond other than to say, "well if you need someone to talk to, I'm here".

After an excrutiating week of no contact because he asked me not to (because he wanted nothing to do with the whole world), he asked me to come over on Sunday. I did but with reservation thinking that I was rebound material - despite the fact that we had been together for around 4-5 months. I went and we talked and it was good. Then UNFORTUNATELY, I had sex with him (and I knew it was wrong at the time) and everything changed again. He was distant and withdrawn afterward. I felt so utterly used because that was the only point in it. Nonetheless a choice I made - right or wrong.

He took me to lunch this past Thursday afternoon. He said that he was extremely sorry for putting me in that position and that he was lonely. I told him that I was incredibly hurt and deserved better despite knowing what I was getting into. He told me that it wasn't maybe love he was feeling for her but a feeling of extreme jealousy. Someone else was taking his place despite the fact that they had been seperated for over two years. I told him that maybe he needed to see a professional to deal with the stages of grieving.

Nonetheless, he said that he had been at a professional and they set him straight.

While not giving him an ultimatum (which I don't think is fair since I knew what I was getting into to), I told him that I couldn't keep on with this. He asked what I wanted. I told him that I didn't know but that if he wanted to keep on with this he needed to make a concerted effort even if for his own well-being (I'm sorry 3000 character isn't enough to elaborate).

We parted at the diner and now he has been texting quite regularily - virtually the same as when that Thursday happened. For some reason, I've been very nonchalant in my responses - althought I don't trust his on/off moods. He said that he does have feelings for me and that it p***ses him off that he can't seem to get her off his mind.

Is he just lonely or does he actually miss me?