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I asked a guy out we both seem to like each other , but he was a bit weird about it. At that point i forgot about it.

Then, a month later her asked me out shyly and i was interested though a bit caught off guard bc of his earlier behavior. I genuinely had plans, so i had to tell him that.

After several weeks of hanging out with friends as we often do , I got the feeling he was still interested based on his behavior and things he said. I tend to down play signs so as not to assume wrongly, so I was not sure.

I also, wanted to make a decision as to if id move on or not as we have known each other over a year. So one day after playing chess, I asked him out. Which to me seems 100% rational.

He responded exasperated, as if i he had asked me 100 times and I kept saying no.

OR as if he had said no 100 times and i had asked him 101 times.

It does not make sense, and I do not like him insinuating i am out of line for simply asking him if he wants to hang out. I am not in a rush, I do not mind waiting but waiting -in the case he is interested, is entirely different than just wasting time-in the case he is not interested.

Why should not i ask and why should not he tell me.. I feel like i am in the twilight zone. He was perfectly friendly moments before , how can he get angry so quickly.

Some guys suggested he is angry bc i am not letting him chase me. Well, i guess if he wants a chase that is his choice and no one is forcing him to go after someone who does not want to be chased. It does not explain him getting angry. I am not into games, am i expected to change who i am?

I only asked twice and only bc he was not clear HOWEVER, I have seen guys suggest ask until you get a hard no-so you can move on with no doubt. Sounds logical. I am not against this, though it seems this is not meant for Women. We are supposed to just guess or wait or roll over and play dead until the guy says sit?

So I’ve made a promise to myself to stay away from f@ckboys just focus on college and work. This one guy I know a while has been asking me for a date I agreed cause I honestly thought he was a nice guy. Anyway it’s the night before the date, I noticed two blonde girls he constantly seems to like on Instagram and it’s annoyed me cause he reminds me of my ex. Always having a girl on ig as a backup plan. And I’m also upset because these girls are both 22 and 20. And I’m 28 so I feel kinda shitty that I’m getting older. This guy is 25 and I kinda felt that I shouldn’t have agreed to go out with him in the first place because of my age. I went through hell with my ex and I’m terrified of wasting anymore of my time,

So I felt for both our interests if I just cancel. I need somebody that’s probably not on social medial (impossible to find I know) and maybe a little bit older than me. And he probably should just stick to these girls. I’m not jealous of them like they’re stunning and I don’t seem to be his type. All the girls he follows are tall, blond and slim. And I’m brunette, small and am quite filled out on the bottom.

I tried to cancel and he wasn’t having any of it. So I really don’t want him paying for me on this date and I know he’ll try too. I don’t want him to think I’m using him for free drink or food. Should I try cancel again or just go on it?